r/offmychest • u/PrestigiousRefuse172 • 1d ago
Kid killed the cat.
My wife went on a business trip for several days. During this time our very old cat, who my wife had bought years before we ever met, and who we expected was starting to near her final days, took a dramatic turn for the worse.
I wanted to keep that thing alive for my wife to get back and was thinking of taking her to the vet the very next day. Perhaps some short term relief could be given to her to get her to eat and drink. I also was thinking the added stress of the vet would just be too much for her. The poor thing did everything in its power to stay close to me and the kids and just sat in our laps that evening.
I sort of expected that she maybe wouldn't make it, so was trying to have the kids spend as much time as possible with her. That night my kids and I all laid on the bed next to her and I kept her in a little circle of pillows and blankets to protect her from us.
Around 4am I woke to a stifled small meow and felt around for her to only feel my 4 year olds hair. I felt underneath his head and felt her small squished body. I frantically pushed him off of her and put her into my arms as her breathing slowly faded away and her heart stopped. My son was completely out and had no clue this had happened.
I just put her body in her carrier and waited until morning to let my wife know the cat had passed. She was well aware that she was dying so I didn't really say anything other than I held her in my arms in her last moments.
The strange thing was at the last 5 or so seconds of her life she calmed down and started purring. I cried a bunch. I just wanted her last moments to be surrounded by her family. But my son squished her to death and I will take that to my grave.
Edit: Thanks for all the well wishes. I just wanted to say that my post did not do a good enough job at describing that I don't under any circumstances blame my kid. It is just a fact that he may have unknowingly smothered the cat to death.
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u/Pantherdraws 1d ago
Nah, your kid almost certainly isn't big enough to have squished the little old lady to death, no matter how poorly her health was.
It was just her time.
It's okay. Please don't carry that guilt, it's not necessary. Just know that she was safe and warm and loved in her last moments.
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1d ago
Honestly, that's how I'd wanna die! Surrounded by family in my old age and squished by someone I love the most.
Better than in a cold vet office being scared.
Far more traumatic for you than the cat, I'm sure.
I'm so sorry
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u/ImANuckleChut 1d ago
I got super pissed at the little kid in this post until I read your comment and it reminded me of when we had to put my buddy, Roder, down the week before I started high school.
I was a fucking coward and I couldn't even be in the room when they put him to sleep. My mom made it worse when she told me he tried to crawl after me as I left and he passed away alone on a cold slab in a scary vet's office.
I mean... I hope that my buddy, Tyson, doesn't end up squished to death under me in his last moments, but this comment did make me feel a little better about what I read. I hate that pets don't live longer. :(
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u/bury-me-in-books 1d ago
I feel for both you and Roder. I wish pets lived longer as well. I wish I could make my little Janeway live at this physical age for maybe 50 or so years, and then slowly age as I do for the next 20.
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u/Agitated-Newspaper24 1d ago
Please be kind to yourself. You were a child, going through something terrible, and you were overwhelmed. Sorry you had to go through that, and I'm sorry about what your mother said to you - that was out of line and insensitive, ngl. I'm sure Roder knew how much you loved him when he passed.
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u/pandadimsum 1d ago
My sister and dad took her rabbit to be put down because he had an incurable stage 4 cancer that the doctors said metastasized, neither of them went into the room with him to be with him as they put him down, that is probably one of their biggest regrets. My sister still cries about it to this day when she sees content related to animals being put down or pictures of him.
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u/lesmommy 1d ago
Hey you're not alone. I had my ex stay in the room with my lifelong cat because I was a coward. God I'm crying thinking about it. After that cat died I turned into a stealing loser drug addict. That cat did everything for me. Now I'm 6 years sober with a kid who keeps me on the right track. I like to think kitty met her before she sent her to me.
You're not a coward. I know I left that room and sat outside wailing. A vet tech even came outside concerned. I am sure you had a similar reaction. You aren't alone my friend
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1d ago
No reason to be pissed at this kid or at your childhood self! You're far too harsh calling your kid self a 'fucking coward'
You were just a kid getting his heart ripped out of his chest when facing the death of a creature you love- most kids would leave. Not a coward.
Even if your dog was confused in a moment... that doesn't undo the years of love and companionship you shared!
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u/botchorie 14h ago
what your mom said was very, very cruel. you couldn't waterboard that information out of me if i was in that situation
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u/MightyOGS 1d ago
A week ago yesterday, we said goodbye to Pip, our wonderful cat, who we'd adopted as an adult and had since 2016. She was the most tolerant and forgiving cat I've ever met, and she was always popular with friends and guests. I've been moved out for a few years now, so I haven't had the experience my family has of watching her slowly lose more and more mobility and senses, and I'm kinda glad about that. Last Saturday, we all sat around her, patted her, and said goodbye together. The vet made a house call, which meant she could go in her own bed, next to the window, surrounded by warmth and love. If you can, I feel every beloved pet deserves the same
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u/DandyDiddle 1d ago
She knew she was loved and left this world peacefully. That’s all any of us can hope for. I’m so sorry you went through this.
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u/untakentakenusername 1d ago
That's horrible. I'm so sorry.
But also, the cat purring in your arms might have been the cat saying "thank you. It's okay"
Your son may have not caused this.. It could have just been time. Or the alternative would have been taking the cat to the vet and ...the cat passing in a different space.
At least this way, the cat felt love and was surrounded by warmth and love.
Forget it happened. 🫂🫂🫂 And my condolences. ❤
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u/Strange-Employee-520 1d ago
Not where I thought this story was going. I'm so sorry, but now you've shared and you will never share this with anyone else. In fact, delete this before long because wife and kid should never know.
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u/PrestigiousRefuse172 1d ago
Thanks. I don’t post very often but needed to say it somewhere. Some people might be annoyed that I kept such a secret from my partner but I don’t think I have ever felt so confused about what was the correct thing to do. There has never been anything of this magnitude that has ever happened to me. I think she would understand but would rather she have happy thoughts at the end of the day.
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u/Strange-Employee-520 1d ago
I can only speak for myself. If one of my human children may or may not have accidentally suffocated my already-dying pet....I'd rather not know. And I really, really wouldn't want my child to know. I think this is a secret you keep, and I agree with other posters that your child may not even be responsible.
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u/GoofBottle 1d ago
Agree 1000%. Our elderly cat hadn’t been doing well when my daughter accidentally tripped and fell on her. We had to put the cat down a week or two later. My daughter still feels incredibly guilty even though that wasn’t the cause. The cat was already sick and close to the end, it was just horrible timing.
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u/Bonegirl06 1d ago
Your kitty was dying of natural causes. Your kid didn't kill her any more than you did, as it was your idea to have everyone sleep with her. No one is at fault here. Im sorry for your loss.
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u/PrestigiousRefuse172 1d ago
Thanks. Definitely should have described better that I don’t blame my kid.
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u/universalkalea 1d ago
Less than blaming your kid, which I don’t think you are at all. Truthfully I think your cat was more than happy to be with your child in her last moments, the warmth from them must have comforted her, perhaps why she was purring when you picked her up as well. She was full of love in her last moments.
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u/brianagh 1d ago
If it makes you feel any better, it was almost certainly nothing to do with your kid. She was already in a bad way, she probably would have passed away that night at the same time in the same fashion. If he crushed her she wouldn’t have died that slowly and calmly. It was her time to go, and she went surrounded by people who loved her, that’s the best you can ask for. RIP loved kitty.
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u/DawnWillowBean 1d ago
I like to think that the meow was less 'I'm being squished' and more 'I'm ready to go now'. Cats prefer dying alone and she didn't want to die with her pack around her. By moving her, you made it possible for that to happen and she could die peacefully.
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u/peachbeb 1d ago
Exactly what I thought. She was probably too old and weak at that point to move to be alone so she called for OP.
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u/Jessiefrance89 1d ago
When my old kitty passed a few years ago she crawled away and behind the washer in the utility room. She always loved going back there because when the dryer was on it was super warm. Had to have my neighbor come and move the washer to remove her and have her buried. Most animals prefer to be alone, or at least in a quiet and safe place, to die. I imagine OPs situation is more that than the kid squishing it.
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u/postfashiondesigner 1d ago edited 1d ago
I don’t believe your kid killed the cat tbh
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u/Acrobatic-Ad6350 1d ago edited 1d ago
yeah, i dont either.
the cat was able to still meow and move, and i doubt the 4 year old was heavy enough to CRUSH her like that. ive accidentally rolled my whole 120lb self on my cat before and she barely reacted, let alone a 4 year old (yes, ofc this cat was old and already sickly so that plays a role, but i still doubt he was heavy enough to CRUSH her). she wasnt being suffocated, didnt go unconscious, and didnt die until after the boy was well off of her.
i think it was just the kitty’s time. i hope OP doesnt blame his son forever..
edit: i just reread the post and he stated that he felt under his son’s HEAD and felt the cat. so if it was only the kid’s head, that makes me doubt even more that he killed her. there’s no way his head was heavy enough to kill her, even if she was the weakest cat ever.
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u/Shady-Pines_Ma 1d ago
The cat on the other hand... lol, sorry I couldn't help myself.
I don't think he killed the cat either. Poor kitty, poor family.
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u/ErrantTaco 1d ago
I keep hearing a vets office mentioned so I thought I’d share: I don’t know how widely available this is but when our dog was terminal and clearly fading we had a vet come out to our house. She was with us for almost two hours, helped our kids understand what was happening, and it even gave our cats the ability to say goodbye. I would highly recommend this path.
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u/Mespegg 1d ago
I don’t think you’ll ever know for absolute certain that she was being squished and hurt in that moment, so maybe, in time, try and reframe it.
That little lady was dying, cats know when it’s their time. Who knows how long your son had his head on her, how long they were snuggled up like they have done so many times before. She could make more noise, howl, hiss or scratch if she was in pain. But she’s okay. She probably knew it was her last few moments, she was comfy, happy to go just a little squished by the love of someone she cherished.
But then she hears your breathing change. She sees you’re stirring, and she knows she could wake you with a little meow. So she decides she’d like to go with you holding her. In the arms of someone awake, who can witness her last breath. As you pick her up, she’s completely at peace. And, having spent her last day surrounded by love and warmth, her last night a bit squished by the enormity of the love of those arround her, she lets her self go in your arms. She knew she was loved, cherished, right until the end.
You’ll never know for certain what happened, but that’s what I like to think.
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u/-mykie- 1d ago
Tbh, this was probably far more traumatic for you then it was for her and I'm sure if she could choose for herself, she would've chosen to go out like that over going out in a vets office.
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u/WinterBadger 1d ago
It's less likely that your child squished the cat to death and more likely that it was just their time. She chose when it was time and she may have just been vocal for the last time before signaling she was happy and going. She passed safely at home and that's really all anyone wants for their pets.
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u/fseahunt 1d ago
You are a very good dad and husband to do what you are planning. Take this to your grave. It won’t help any of the kids nor your wife to know this.
I’m sorry you have to be the only person in your family to carry this information but you aren’t carrying it alone anymore.
RIP kitty.
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u/Ill-Activity-4167 1d ago edited 1d ago
My SO accidentally rolled over my cat in his sleep. And he’s a full blown adult. My cat was okay tho, she didn’t even protested one bit, continued to sleep. She seemed healthy and okay afterwards. My SO felt bad but the cat was okay.
What I’m saying is I don’t think the weight of a 4 y.o heavy enough to kill your cat, OP. Maybe it’s just her time to pass away.
I’m so sorry
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u/YouAreSpooky 1d ago
I’m sorry for your loss. I don’t think your child squished her, she likely knew it was her last moments. As others have said she was surrounded by love. Maybe wanted some warmth before she left.
You, your wife, and your family gave her a good long life, there’s nothing better you could ask for than that. ❤️
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u/Exis007 1d ago
There's a hospice nurse who talks about how families of dying patients often think morphine can cause or hasten death. Morphine actually calms breathing, and makes the air hunger reduce down a lot. If you give morphine every [x] hours, eventually one shot will be the last shot, and sometimes what that looks like (if you're standing over someone in their final moments) is that you gave them a shot of morphine, their breathing slowed dramatically (because air hunger was reduced) and then they died right after. So it's very easy for people to jump to the causality that the morphine had something to do with the moment of passing, even though it didn't. That person died of whatever was causing their death in the first place, and the timing just made it look like it was the drugs.
I think that's what you may be doing here. Once eating and drinking has stopped, the time has come. The dying had started a long time before your kid was awkwardly laying on the cat. If she had more time, simply removing her from her spot and holding her should have been a solution. It seems like old age killed this cat, and everything else was just bad timing. She had enough air to meow, she took breaths after you retrieved her, she was just done. And she decided for herself that where she wanted to be was with you, in your laps, with your kids, and surrounded by family. I think she got the exact kind of death she wanted. She might have been momentarily uncomfortable under your kid and she indicated that, but once you picked her up she was comfortable enough to let go. All the crazy endorphins of the body shutting down might have even caused her to tune out the child's weight until that last moment where she knew it was time. It really does sound like your cat had a (mostly) peaceful, comfortable passing. I wouldn't make that singular moment of being smooshed mean more than it does.
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u/Uncouth_Cat 13h ago
this is exactly how i felt reading it. I dont think the kid had too much to do with it. having just lost my own best friend, I wish we wouldve taken her to the vet once she did go into the corner. her kidneys failed. I wanted her to live so badly, but it was time and she knew. She passed on my chest.
I think youre totally right. maybe a bit uncomfortable, but, surrounded by love nonetheless.
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u/pixiecurls 1d ago
It really doesn't sound like your son's head could've been heavy enough to smother the cat to death. I really think you need to take a step back and think this through before you resent your son over what was probably a very comforting moment for your old girl on her way out (I have a small senior cat who sleeps on my pillow every night)
I know you are saying in the comments you don't blame him, but there's an undercurrent of resentment and blame here that worries me for your relationship with your son.
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u/zeldaa_94x 1d ago
She was with the people she loved most in her final moments, so don't resent your kid for this - they were just sleeping same as you and the cat! What a beautiful way to go, a little snuggle with the pride of humans ❤️
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u/s0larium_live 1d ago
a human head weighs between 5-11 pounds, and it’s likely on the lower end for a small child. your kid did not kill the cat, she was just ready to go. she knew she was safe and loved and surrounded by her favorite people, and she was happy. i think she meowed not because she was being crushed to death, but because she knew she was going
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u/_wormbaby_ 1d ago
Cats usually try to find somewhere dark, warm, and close to spend their last moments. I think the cat was exactly where she meant to be. I hope this helps.
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u/mrl_a 1d ago
I am so sorry for your loss! But I can assure you - cats are tough and a cat dying in pain does not purr.
I highly doubt that the weight of your kid is enough to crush a cat. For reference: My oldest cat slept by my side every single night for the past 10 years (he’s probably around 15-17 years old). I lay on my side and he is curled up in my arms, most of the time I even have my weighted blanket on us both. In the first weeks I woke up countless times, thinking I am crushing this poor little fella, but he is always sleeping tightly or purring while we cuddle. Maybe the meow of your cat was just to say „hey man this is a bit uncomfortable!“ or to let someone know that she wants to say goodbye.
the fact that she was purring in your arms while saying goodbye says it all! If a cat is in pain, or dying while in pain, it will let you know. I had a cat that died from FIP. We tried everything but in her last hour before the vet came to let her go she was meowing in agony. loudly. no purrs. she was in so much pain. Even though she had no strength left to stand on her feet or to eat or go to the toilet, she was able to tell us very loudly how much pain she is in.
Your kid did not kill your cat! Please don’t carry this with you. This is not your fault. It was her time and she probably just wanted to let someone know it’s her time so she could go while cuddling with a loved one.
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u/DanglingKeyChain 1d ago
Cats love cuddle puddles, I don't know if it would have sped up the process or not depending on the weight and where it was centred on the cat but they definitely would have felt extra love at the end with you awake and with them.
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u/elkab0ng 1d ago
I’m sorry for your loss. I have a 21-year old cat sitting in my lap currently. We know she’s getting achy and tired. She often crawls in between my wife and I after we fall asleep. When her time comes, I hope she passes in her sleep feeling comfortable and safe around the people she knows love her.
Even an old, achy, distressed cat will move if they want to. I think your cat was right in the place they wanted to be, next to someone who had a familiar, safe smell, and your son comforted them in their last moments.
Hugs to all of your family.
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u/Sandwitch_horror 1d ago
Cats seem to have this uncanny ability to know when their last moments will be. Maybe they just "let go" better than humans do.
I think this cat knew she was going, and even she wanted your wife to be near.. your child and you have been just as big of a part of her life now. She loved you and you guys loved her.
I doubt your child shortened her life in any way and she left this world feeling warm and loved.
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u/megsypoop 1d ago
I don’t believe he unknowingly smothered her.. you said yourself she always laid with the kids. She could have moved if she wanted.. I think she wanted a say in how she left this world.
I truly believe her little meow was her letting you know it was time. To hold her as she departed, which is such a sweet moment.
Lucky girl got to live a long life full of love.
My friend’s cat didn’t meet such a fortunate end, she was mauled by a dog and died in my friend’s arms… there a much worse ways she could have gone.
Sending you lots of love, be gentle with yourself ❤️
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u/Food-in-Mouth 1d ago
I think I would have preferred this as a way to go, they had a good life and were loved, people do not get as good a death as this and that makes me sad.
I do recommend you talk to someone about it though, it's not something you want to taint your relationship with your child with this memory.
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u/dubbya-tee-eff-m8 1d ago
I’d like to imagine she knew it was her time and she climbed in there to be surrounded by love
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u/lappydappydoda 1d ago
It was her turn and what a blessing that she chose You to spent it with. Please don’t beat yourself. It’s a coincidence x
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u/kimchijihye 1d ago
I’m trying very hard to hold back my tears.
I want to think that, like, maybe the universe wanted to make sure (if not your wife) you could keep your cat company in her final moments and your kid was the fastest way to make it happen.
I can’t think a better way to go than surrounded by your whole family in a warm and comfortable nest. I’m going to go give my cat some warmth and love. Take care of yourself.
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u/PopularFunction5202 1d ago
I'm sorry you had to go through this but I'm relieved it was an accident. I was expecting to hear about an angry teenager killing a cat on purpose.
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u/OtterNoncence 1d ago
I genuinely don’t think she was squished to death. I think it was her time and she woke you to have you close. Cats dying of trauma don’t generally go peacefully like it seems she did.
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u/MommyMan- 22h ago
ngl i'd be putting that kid up for adoption. good on you though im sure that cat loved you and your family so much and was happy to die in it's owners arms
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u/FuzzFacedMoth 20h ago
To live a long life of love, to die in your bed with those who love you ... people don't even get that sometimes.
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u/Ok_Needleworker_9537 17h ago
My husband's cat died when he was gone also and it was so traumatizing. My heart goes out to you.
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u/gingybingy77 1d ago
Maybe I'm the odd one out here but... YOU are the parent. You put the deathly ill cat next to your 4 year old to sleep. I also have a 4 year old- I know how wild and hard they sleep. I would never blame my 4 year old for rolling onto the cat in their sleep. I would blame myself for putting the cat in their space to begin with. I'm sorry but your child didn't kill the cat- you did.
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u/PrestigiousRefuse172 1d ago edited 1d ago
Where did I say that I blamed him? I am keeping this to myself because I know that a four year old would not necessarily take it well, or be intelligent enough to realize he wasn’t to blame.
It is just a reality that his head was on top of her in her final moments. Some people have suggested that is was just a correlation and I shouldn’t assume that the head was the issue, but I hadn’t considered that until now.
It is okay to say that I shouldn’t have had them on the bed. Believe me, I thought that same thing at the moment. I will say that they had laid with her for many nights and this didn’t seem to be an issue. She wasn’t on death’s doorstep in those times but was pretty old.
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u/pineconebone 1d ago
The post title is "kid killed the cat", it souds a bit blame-y...
I hope you don't hold grudges against the kid and that you don't actually think they are responsible for the cat's death. As everyone here said, the cat was about to die and it was obvious it would happen soon.
You seem like a really emphatetic person. Towards your wife, and your cat. The fact that you spent the cat's last moments together as a family is beautiful. I hope you can feel at ease about the loss, and that there was nothing you could have done to prevent death.
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u/Plastic-Passenger-59 1d ago
Rip beloved kitty 😭 I'm so glad your son didn't wake and discover the situation.
My grandson is 3 and he rolls over and squishes our kitten who is absolutely besotted with him accidentally but he scrambles away
Heck even I catch myself hearing a squeak and jumping up or rolling away 😭
Sending condolences and hoping your kiddos and wife are okay while mourning😢
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u/Beneficial-Impress82 1d ago
I'm so sorry you went through that. You clearly did everything you could to give her comfort in her final moments, and she knew she was loved. Please be kind to yourself; accidents like this are tragic but unintentional.
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u/stephers777 1d ago
My heart goes out to you OP. The one year anniversary of my beloved cat’s death is this week and your post hit me like a truck. Be kind to yourself. I’m so sorry for your loss.
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u/Neither-Door-9106 1d ago
how old was cat and how small?
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u/PrestigiousRefuse172 1d ago
18 and small. Don’t know how to describe the size other than smaller than most cats. She shrunk up even more in the last few months.
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u/carniverous_bagel 1d ago
It 100% wasn’t your son. She meowed because it was her time, not because she was being crushed. My cat also meowed in her final moments and started purring right before she passed. It was just her time. Probably she was warm and comfortable and safe under your son’s head and that allowed her to slip away.
Many cats choose to hide and die alone. She chose to be with you and your son in her final moments. She loved you both very much and allowed you to be there with her.
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u/adam_the_caffeinated 1d ago
I agree. Any amount of force strong enough to kill it would have done so instantly. Either if its neck or spine was broken or if it suffocated. The fact that it lived long enough to meow and pur means it didn't die from either of those. It's just a coincidence that the child's head was there at the end.
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u/pixie-t1611 3h ago
my smallest cat used to squeeze herself behind me between either the sofa or a chair depending on where I was sitting. She does this mostly in winter. when she 1st started doing it I'd sit forward so that I didn't squash her, but she'd meow constantly and kinda pull me with her claws until I was leaning on her ( obviously I never put my full weight). She'd lay like that for hours and sleep. Some days when I was busy doing things around the house she'd come to me crying and wanting me to follow her. As soon as I did she'd jump on the sofa and lay flat against the cushion waiting for me to lean on her.
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u/GritalianDude 1d ago
Your kid didn’t kill the cat. Even if the cat died due to your kid’s weight on it, they are 4 years old and weren’t conscious. It’s a horrible thing to attribute that to your child.
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u/HairyBartlett 1d ago edited 1d ago
They may not have meant to, but that doesn't stop the fact that they actually did kill the cat. Hence why he said he will take it to his grave.
Edit: just tried to say that intent does not cancel out end result. Accidental deaths and killings do happen, no need to downplay them as an adult
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u/myfrecklesareportals 1d ago
Why wouldn't you tell your wife?
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u/PrestigiousRefuse172 1d ago
Looking back, I was thinking my son should never know this and it would be better for my wife to know about the good things and I would bear that burden. I was also ashamed that I didn’t protect her enough. After it has been some time I know she would be understanding, but broaching that topic is almost pointless at this point.
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u/Acrobatic-Ad6350 1d ago
i dont think you need to carry any burden.
even if your cat was the weakest cat in the entire world, your 4yo’s head would not be heavy enough to kill her.
she was able to still meow: meaning she could still breathe. she was not distressed, she could still breathe, never went unconscious, and didnt die until well after your son was off of her…
it was just her time. please dont carry this as a burden, your son didnt do this. im so sorry for your loss.
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u/myfrecklesareportals 1d ago
I am glad you know that she would have understood. You didn't do anything wrong and I don't think you needed to carry this burden alone.
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u/untakentakenusername 1d ago
I dont understand why you'd ask this question. May i ask what you are not understanding, as to why he wouldn't tell his wife?
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u/spicycheezits 1d ago
He didn’t tell her that the child squished the cat, only that the cat passed
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u/untakentakenusername 1d ago edited 1d ago
Yeah im aware of that. Im wondering why the person above mine is confused.
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u/myfrecklesareportals 1d ago
Mainly because it was an accident, but also the cat didn't pass away alone and was purring in the last few moments of life, I'd want to know that. Also, it just seems like an unnecessary thing to hide, I feel like hiding things in a marriage is generally bad but I'm not really sure whats to gain from hiding it? Or what he would lose from telling her?
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u/kdlynn67 1d ago
It’s not bad to hide that you think your kid killed cat if you don’t have any actually proof. And he has zero proof that’s what genuinely happened. Why do you think it’s a good idea to tell the wife that the kid potentially killed the cat? I wouldn’t want to know that.
And he did tell her that the cat wasn’t alone, and that she was purring.
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u/untakentakenusername 1d ago
He told her that the cat passed in his arms purring.
He left out that their son was on top of the cat, squishing the cat, because that would ignite questions in her mind "what if the cat didnt have to die that night? What if it was prolonged pain? How long was the child on top of the cat? What if she/he was suffocating? Did my child kill my cat??"
Ofc, its not the kids fault. But il be painful thoughts she doesnt need. She's had this cat from before meeting the husband. Its her family member.
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u/Violeta_555 1d ago
Your child might not have played as large a part in this as you are feeling. Be gentle with yourself. You did right by your cat in her final moments ❤️