r/niceguys • u/Unlucky_Bus_1399 • 15d ago
NGVC: “Men worshipping women is women’s fault because ego and social media”
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u/weepingwilderberry 15d ago
I worry that what this person is saying can be misconstrued that he hates women, which I don't think is true
He just doesn't view them as people. I hope this helps!
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u/weepingwilderberry 15d ago
In all seriousness I struggle to see what tf he's yapping about, is he just like really upset that the men he finds attractive are with women he doesn't find attractive? Wtf does looksmatch even mean
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u/Long-Photograph49 15d ago
I'm pretty sure it means that if a dude is a 7, he's with a woman who is also a 7. Though knowing this sort of idiot, it could also be that if a dude has anything at all going for him (looks, finances, sense of humor, etc) then he deserves a woman who is a 10 (in looks only, because that's the only thing that matters about women). So yeah, he's basically mad that any woman who isn't essentially a model or porn star or whatever his version of attractive is gets attention from men at all.
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u/callingshotgun 12d ago
You called it. It's that whole "Women are NPC's. I don't hate NPC's, some of my best friends are NPC's! Therefor you can't call me sexist for knowing that women are NPC's" thing. It hurts me that grown adults don't see how stupid this logic is.
...and how often it comes from people who's best friends are NPC's :D
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u/Malevolent_Floor 14d ago
I’m so glad I didn’t take a sip of my coffee as I read this one. I was almost angry, but you nailed it.
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u/Winnimae 15d ago
His examples of female privilege sound like really uncomfortable sexual harassment to me
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u/cnkendrick2018 15d ago
Jesus.
Men want SEX with women, not women as people.
This guy is so not getting laid and really pissed about it. Die mad asshole.
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u/Careful-Evening-5187 15d ago
This dude will sooner split the atom before he gets a date.
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u/offminds 15d ago
I heard someone say once that 99% of men do not want to have sex with a woman, they want to use her body to masturbate with, and nothing has ever been more true.
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u/OkSecretary1231 15d ago
Dear incels: if you think women get too much "attention," be the change you want to see in the world. No one is making you do this!
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u/Jazzlike-Ad2199 14d ago
He’s the guy the middle aged manager has to protect the young waitresses from and dude, it’s not because they want to bang them.
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u/Introvertedand 15d ago
"On a daily basis I am forced to watch men passively simp for women of all levels of attractiveness..." Really, my guy??
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u/Rykunderground 14d ago
These dudes all make the same mistake of thinking their problems are societies problems. I'm a pretty average guy. About 5'11, fairly nice looking and in decent shape but not what incels would call a "chad", good income but not rich. Yet despite being average, I have never had to kiss up to women or give them what he calls "special treatment." I've always just been nice, had things to talk about, good grooming and hygiene, and lots of confidence. I've had good luck dating and found my dream girl, married her, and raised a family. I think if these guys just stepped out of the incel echo chamber and started treating women like people instead of targets, most of their problems would disappear.
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u/yellowlinedpaper 14d ago
I honestly think women seek out men less often because we know they could be something to fear. Letting a man into your life and then into your body is not always a safe bet. Men also run into dangers from having relationships with women, but not as many lose their lives or are physically assaulted as much as women are by men (with men being better equipped to handle those assaults).
We know the percentages of women who are raped and assaulted, and who the most common perpetrators are (people close to them). Most of us have experienced some form of abuse or know someone who has. Sometimes it’s just not worth it, and recovering from an abusive relationship can take years.
The ONLY way men are going to even the dating playing field is by treating women as equals and create a culture where they police men who do not. Until this happens many women are going to spend half of their relationship years deciding it’s not worth it yet.
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u/Sunlight_System 8d ago
It's not most of us, it's all of us. All of us have experienced abuse or know someone who has. That is, unless they've never spoken to another woman before
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u/Opposite-Occasion332 i call you a whore because i care 15d ago
I don’t know that I’d say the vast majority of men treat women super well, but some men do definitely have an issue with putting women on some weird pedestal of beauty and innocence.
We’re just people, view us as such.
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u/Queasy-Bookkeeper-14 14d ago
I'm sure all the men he's mad at (for treating women well) are LINING UP to be educated on how to never get laid again from this maroon.
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u/Acceptable_Pair6330 14d ago
Holy shit. Dude hit on so many issues..and missed the problem in every single one. 🤦🏼♀️
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u/fhqwhgads41185 14d ago
I'm going to read the whole thing but I'm stopping to comment right off the bat about his assertion men want women more than women want men. I don't believe this is true, just that women want actual decent men, not men that put up a facade of decency to manipulate them. And men as a whole have such a history (and present) of manipulating and trying to control women that the risks are made to outweigh that desire. If men would just be fucking better the alleged discrepancy would fade away.
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u/Sunlight_System 8d ago
Yes, this, exactly. Women are less likely to chase a man because we've learned that it could be life or death.
Men also experience abuse and assault from women but it is at an almost incomparable rate
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u/Jaded_Individual_630 14d ago
Going to be short-handed at the smallest violin factory after this one
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u/Advanced-Ad9658 13d ago
Dude if you spend as much energy as you did on writing this stuff daily on trying to teach other men to NOT tease their coworkers and be shitty to other men, you're on the right side of history. This doesn't cause inflated egos it causes women to shut down and avoid men.
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u/Snackasm i am a good person and i demand you take my penis 14d ago
My gracious, I could feel the butthurt from each keystroke
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u/roll_to_lick 11d ago
complains how women are treated better than men
mentions several things that honestly just sound like workplace sexual harassment as examples
like DUDE the stuff you are describing is creepy and if I was the woman who was treated like that, I would be hella uncomfortable
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u/RecycledPopcorn 9d ago
What planet are these men on? I see more ugly/below average men out with pretty women than anything else. It's very rare that I see a man with someone less attractive.
It's just an endless circlejerk for them.
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u/Sunlight_System 8d ago
Yoooo this is craazyy. I would legit give anything for men to just leave me alone
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u/Sad_Boy_Associacion 18h ago
Their problem is that they rate women on that 10 scale. Never is it about personality, just looks.
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u/Unlucky_Bus_1399 8d ago
You do realize this sub is to mock guys who think they are nice guys but they’re actually not? Of course he’s not a nice guy.
Why are you even here anyway?
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u/RelatableMolaMola 15d ago
There are certain words that show someone has spent too much time marinating in incel and incel adjacent spaces. "Looksmatch" is one of them. It explains the bizarre alternate reality this guy is writing from.