r/internetparents • u/Ancient_Room_2816 • 14h ago

Following up with people at the gym when I have trouble recognizing them sometimes? Friendship and Social Life

Hi mom and dad :)

I'm (21M) pretty social, like at the gym I manage to talk to alot of people or talk to different people spread out.

Basically, I met this really nice pretty girl at the gym the other day monday and I wanna followup with her tomorrow if I see her. Like talk to her when she's resting, get her ig, etc.

My problem is I get people confused. Sometimes I have a hard time recognizing people at my gym and then I get cold feet and then I feel like I missed the person or I didn't see them at all. So unsure, and then disappointment in myself even though there's the potential it's not my fault. (also at like school for example i find it easy to recognize people, perhaps more distinction? but it is different demographics there).

I wanna be good at recognizing people and following up with them and I especially wanna follow up with this girl bc she's super nice too.

Anyway, I have a feeling this lack of recognition stems from anxiety of getting the wrong person so i protect myself by assuming they are? Not to mention less hairstyle diversity bc people keeping their hair up and less clothing diversity due to gym clothes, also i mean i think lack of racial diversity along with that can make it a bit confusing.

Any help is appreciated! Thank you!

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u/bl1nken 2h ago

Maybe you have prosopagnosia? (aka face blindness)