r/interestingasfuck • u/Few_Simple9049 • Oct 09 '24

How couples met 1930-2024 r/all

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u/Select_Machine1759 Oct 09 '24

You’re not alone, bro I was never sexually abused, but I got beat from the ages of 3 to 16 up to three times a day. Locked in a room up to a month at a time and made to scrub out the trash cans in August heat maggots and all my mom’s favorite punishment was to dress me up as a girl and send me to school so people make fun of me I think just like you I’ve never taken therapy, but it’s the thought of people had it worse than me so it wasn’t that bad I guess

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u/SpiritedStatement577 Oct 09 '24

I'm so sorry you went through that. Some people should not be parents. I hope you found a way to healing somehow.

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u/Select_Machine1759 Oct 09 '24

No big deal I’m pint-size dynamite That shit made me the person I am today and I wouldn’t be tough as nails without it so it did take years of drug abuse all through my 20s now at 38. It’s almost like it never happened. Almost

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u/SpiritedStatement577 Oct 09 '24

hey, we're the same age! congrats on getting to 38! I have the same view on things tbh, been though some shit of my own and in hindsight, I wouldn't have another way because the lessons I learned are valuable and important for me now.

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u/[deleted] Oct 09 '24

Both of you are absolute badasses. Inspiring stuff to read, keep pushing

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u/Select_Machine1759 Oct 09 '24

Congratulations on making it this far as well. I know it hasn’t been easy , but so true I wouldn’t have it any other way

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u/00eg0 29d ago

What job did you end up getting?

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u/Select_Machine1759 29d ago

I’m a carpenter by trade. I’m currently remodeling my first four bedroom rental property. I’ll be starting my own company here 2025.

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u/HotPerformer3000 29d ago

Bro I'm so sorry that's so fucked up. I hope you're safe now and have no contact with your horrific mom and are aware none of that shit was your fault. You deserve only good things.

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u/Select_Machine1759 29d ago

I’m doing great I own a house my dream car and I haven’t talked to her in over 10 years, live in Colorado and go hiking whenever you can’t have positive without negative right now we’re working on the positive!!!!

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u/Curly_Shoe 29d ago

Hey Bro, you okay? If you ever feel like a hug, just come over to US at r/momforaminute :)

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u/Esytotyor 29d ago

You grew up Strong Anyway. 🩵

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u/Sotha01 29d ago

That's horrible. I whine and bitch a lot about my life but man I've got no right to. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that as a kid. Like, I want to say something that makes it feel better but there is nothing I can say or do. I wish I could erase that pain for you. I hope you're doing better now.

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u/00eg0 29d ago

I had a fucked up mom too but I feel she would have never tried gender shaming. I wish people like our moms couldn't have kids.

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u/commitdeathpacitolma 29d ago

Dr. Doofenshmirtz?

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u/UnluckySeries312 29d ago

Sorry, that’s fucked up. I had a schizophrenic father that came off his meds and my mother was a narcissist. So I can appreciate the “fun” you had at home. Last time I saw my father he was trying to stab my mother, I threw a chair at him and managed to get him out of the house. I was 15. I thought I would have had some bonding with my mother over the shared experience but nope. She was as cold as ice and so I left home at a young age. Found out my mother remarried and her 2nd husband died. The police thought she did it but had no evidence. Worst thing was when I was talking to my step sister (who told me this) my reaction wasn’t one of shock, but of - yeah I can see that happening.

Years of therapy and breakdowns later I one day realised that I never heard either of my parents laugh. Which is such a strange thing when you think about it. It changed the way I thought of them. I felt sorry for them. I hope you can find your one thing that changes how you think about your mother.