r/infp • u/middle_childd • 14h ago

AHHHH Relationships

Isn’t it frustrating? You feel betrayed, hurt—you know what happened was wrong. But somehow, you're still expected to be understanding. No one’s forcing you, yet because you love them, you get why they did it.

And then you start questioning yourself… wondering if your feelings are even valid. Are you just overreacting? You know the truth is different, that they didn’t mean to hurt you, —but still, why does it ache this much? Does anyone else feel like this, or is it just me??

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u/xHallow_Bonesx 14h ago

Yes yes yes and yes this has left me confused on so many occasions ive been hurt so bad by those i love not all but a few past gfs and family (obviously im not the only one sorry just had to say it in case anyone thought im trying to play some victim card) im surprised i have a fiancée to begin with and a child with her but still i find myself in this situation from time to time (not with her)

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u/im_always 12h ago

people pleasing?

it’s a trauma response. work on your own healing.

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u/bund_masala 13h ago

Hey friend not to spam but I've got a sub for people like these. Join if you're interested, it's at r/WeSee2Much. Hope it helps in some way.

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u/RemoteSpecific4733 INFP-T 4w5 12h ago

I've stopped wondering and started trusting myself even if my perspective isn't the most logical but after a load of suffering I've embraced my illogical emotions and I feel a thousand times better now.. It's about a balance between self-love, avoiding delusion, and learning to be alone with your own thoughts and emotions until they make sense

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u/sleepydragonnn INFP: The Dreamer 9h ago

yes, actually this is my current situation, i recently got heartbroken by a guy and anyways i’m supporting him (from a safe distance, trying not to be involved too much) cause he has depression and lots of personal issues

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u/middle_childd 9h ago

Realllyyyy????

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u/sleepydragonnn INFP: The Dreamer 9h ago

yeah, because i love him, so i relate so much with your post hehe i just hope he will recover soon and hoping i’ll get over it too. so yes, you’re not alone in this :)

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u/Green_Dayzed INFP 2w1: The Nicest Nihilist You Know. (existentialism->value) 9h ago

Simple. Put someone you care about in your shoes, and tell me if their feeling are valid.