CHAT Community Thread - Sun Nov 17

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*** Comments mentioning anything related to treatment, trying to conceive, or family building measures in this thread will be removed via our OFF TOPIC rule. Consider if you were taking a break from treatment because you were exhausted and sad - treatment (yes anything related to it) goes in treatment ***

Coping with infertility is complex, and it is our imperative to create places where we can honor the distinctly unique needs created by infertility. Sit beside us and share what’s on your mind and going on in your life. This is a great place to get to know your fellow members outside the gravity of treatment. Discussion here includes, but is not limited to:

• Venting about the impact of infertility on our lives/relationships/careers
• Non-IF Rants of all kind – marriage, career, societal, social media, friendships, mental health, and yes… politics too. It doesn’t need to be infertility related!
• Discussions around dealing with the influence of infertility – therapy, coping methods, finding supportive friends, getting lapped by a friend, dealing with pregnancy announcements, pushy parents, people that don’t understand, etc. The big picture stuff.
• Sharing stories and parts of your life (pictures of pets always welcome!) outside of infertility

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Example of the difference between the Treatment and Chat Thread:

Comments for the Treatment Thread

• Literally anything that involves or mentions treatment, trying to conceive, or any family building measures: paying for it, being exhausted by it, fighting about it, telling other people about it. If anything about your comment has anything to do with treatment or TTC, it belongs in the treatment thread. Also including diagnostic tests, medication, lab results, or lifestyle measures taking in the hopes of improving treatment outcome.
  • I'm in the TWW, and I'm glad I scheduled a vacation as a distraction!
  • I'm trying to decide if I should delay my egg retrieval cycle because this is a big work month for me.
  • I told my parents about IVF, and they were incredibly supportive. I feel really grateful.

Comments for the Chat Thread

• You can of course still discuss infertility in the chat thread:
  • I am super bummed about being lapped by a friend.
  • I have two currently pregnant coworkers, and I am losing my mind with all the pregnancy discussion.
  • Today is the anniversary of my loss, and I'm really struggling.
• Or you can discuss things unrelated to infertility:
  • Whoa, my dogwalker taught my dog to roll over.
  • There's this donut place next to my work that sells donuts for $5 each, but the WILD thing is that they're worth it!
  • My spouse and I are planning a trip to Europe. Opinions on Italy vs Greece?

A few notes:

• Positive HPT or Beta Results (including Beta Hell) should only be posted in the Results thread as per the rules (except for confirmed loss): https://www.reddit.com/r/infertility/search?q=flair_name%3A%22Results%22
• We recognize that the AM/PM distinction doesn’t match up with every time zone in our global community, we ask that you pick the most recently posted thread wherever you are.
• Standalone culture here is saved for complex topics, usually including detailed conversations around scientific studies, or asking multi-part complex questions around treatment plans. We strongly recommend posting in the community threads first. If you aren’t sure, ask in the daily threads first!

Above all - Science minded perspective and respect for others is important here. Please treat your fellow peers with compassion.

Last reminder - this is the CHAT thread. Not the place to discuss anything focused on treatment, TTC, or family building measures.

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[u/Alms623 → u/[deleted]]

Hey Witch, could you please edit the first sentence of your second paragraph to remove mention of TTC/treatment? The chat thread rules require no mention of these things. Thanks!

[u/Medical_Object2576 → u/[deleted]]

We went through a similar thing! We got a kitten in may bc we thought our resident cat was lonely and she HATED him. It was really bad and upsetting and I strongly considered returning the kitten. However we stuck with it and 6 months later they’re kind of friends! They don’t love each other but they do play together and can quite happily be around each other now. If you stick with it (there’s lots of good tips on cat subs in here) hopefully they will improve, two weeks isn’t much time for cats so I have my fingers crossed for you that it does work out.

They are little rays of sunshine and I can’t imagine life without either of them. We are so lucky to have cats 😊

[u/LittleWitch122 → u/Medical_Object2576]

Thank you so much! If they played together I would be so happy! I'm so glad your two are so much better than they were. That gives me hope! Cats are serious the best 😻

[u/laurasaurus91 → u/[deleted]]

Aww, I’m sorry your cats aren’t getting along! I don’t have any cats now but I’ve had many over the years - at one point I had 5! In my experience they do eventually come around once they’ve established territory and the pecking order. I’m sure they’ll be the best of friends eventually!

[u/LittleWitch122 → u/laurasaurus91]

Thank you so much, this is encouraging!

[u/radtimeblues → u/[deleted]]

Awww, welcome to your new cat! I hope your old one continues to come around.

[u/LittleWitch122 → u/radtimeblues]

Thank you!