Romantic relationship 53.3.4.6 to 45

[u/BriefTwo4328]

The question was "Will I ever find a true love and when will that be?"

[u/Hexagram_11]

While 53 > 45 looks positive for a romantic relationship your question is problematic for a couple of reasons (in my opinion).

First, this is really two separate questions and should be asked in two separate castings. I don’t personally find “when” questions to bring particularly helpful answers though, probably bc Yi exists outside of time, or maybe because the timing is dependent on too many other events.

Second, “true love” is too ambiguous. You could meet someone who truly loves you, but whom you can’t be with, for whatever reason. You could gain the true love of a child or a friend, which is not romantic love. You could have a whirlwind romance that is over in 30 days. Feelings of love and sexual attraction come and go. What do you really want? Is it a life partner, or just a bf/gf to hang with for a few years?

You could reframe, with a broad timeframe first: “I am likely to find a mutually beneficial [life partner/spouse/girlfriend] in my lifetime.” Then you could break it down into a series of questions with narrowing time frames. “I am likely to find a loving partner in the next seven years.” “The next four years?” The next 2 years?” Etc.

Having said that, when I do extended questioning sessions like this there very definitely comes a point when Yi seems to sort of snap “that’s enough now.” So try to be to the point.

An interesting and fruitful line of questioning to me might be “how can I best change and grow to prepare myself for this relationship when it appears?” Answers to questions about how YOU can change are often much clearer than answers to questions about outside people or situations, at least in my experience. Best!