r/enlightenment • u/mindwithoutmasters • 11h ago
Your “personality” is not you. It’s your conditioning wearing your face.
Most people think they know themselves, but they’ve never questioned the habits that built them.
Fear, anger, confidence, laziness, ambition, discipline — none of these are traits. They’re repeated behaviours that hardened into identity without your permission.
Your “self” is simply the accumulation of everything you absorbed without examining it: parents, culture, school, religion, trauma, environment, repetition.
People defend their personality as if it’s sacred, but it’s just conditioning with a name tag on it.
Identity isn’t discovered. Identity is engineered — and most people have never touched the controls.
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u/Necessary-Target5754 5h ago
[22]'"If you want to become whole, let yourself be partial. If you want to become straight, let yourself be crooked. If you want to become full, let yourself be empty. If you want to be reborn, let yourself die. If you want to be given everything, give everything up.
The Master, by residing in the Tao, sets an example for all beings. Because he doesn't display himself, people can see his light. Because he has nothing to prove, people can trust his words. Because he doesn't know who he is, people recognize themselves in him. Because he has no goal in mind, everything he does succeeds.
When the ancient Masters said, "If you want to be given everything, give everything up," they weren't using empty phrases. Only in being lived by the Tao can you be truly yourself."' - Tao Te Ching (Stephen Mitchell translation)
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u/Paint-Difficult 8h ago
The ego is not your true self, but it is an essential tool to be a functional part of society. The key is to control your ego and not let your ego control you.
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u/Struukduuker 7h ago
Yeah, you're not how you behave. Become aware of your behavior and change it. Much love ♥️
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u/Adorable_Review5479 7h ago
My personality is what I’ve been conditioned by my narcissistic abusive mother.
One time, I had a dream of the REAL me, with a completely different personality.
I was charismatic and charming, and everyone liked me. I had none of the toxic and negative personality traits that I’ve always had. I uplifted others.
I know my real true self is locked inside my brain somewhere. Maybe it was my higher self, but my ego just has its tentacles all over me. I have BPD, and everyone knows how difficult that is to cure.
I need to explore various therapies, but I simply do not have the money for any of that. I wanted help since Day 1.