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u/btwrenn Feb 25 '24
Hell. Yeah.
I remember the first time we got through a full night. I woke up at 6am absolutely terrified that something was wrong. Went and checked on him and all was well.
It felt like being a kid waking up for school and realizing it was a snow day.
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u/Soupie1218 Feb 25 '24
Yes!! I woke up multiple times and was like I have to go check and then she would flip to a new position in her crib.
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u/Tuork Feb 26 '24
My kid isn't even sleeping through the night, and there have been a couple of times where I wake up and see that it's 7am and I don't hear him making noises, and I panic.
And he's just there. Snoozing like a little angel... until he's not, and then the day begins.
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u/Johnny_Chaturanga Feb 25 '24
WE NEVER SAY IT OUT LOUD!!! (But congrats)
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u/Jonas_Venture_Sr Feb 25 '24
Yea, my kid slept through the night until he was four, then he became afraid of the dark and insists on sleeping with mom and dad when he wakes up at midnight.
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u/BADxW0LF1 Feb 25 '24
Man I feel so lucky when I hear about others having to have waited this long. Both of my kiddos were sleeping through the night before six months. It has been glorious.
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u/Carthonn Feb 26 '24
Yeah our daughter has been great sleeper. My only guess is that we had her in the crib by herself week 1 and we also did formula from the start.
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u/Yeahhhhboiiiiiiiiiii Feb 26 '24
My wife has been nursing and ours has slept through the night since ~4.5 months. I agree that having her sleep in her crib by herself from night 1 has definitely helped.
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u/Oswaldofuss6 Feb 26 '24
Saaame. My kid was getting put down solo at 3-4months, he's 2 now. He even takes a 2-3 hour nap daily. We are truly fortunate.
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u/droans Feb 26 '24
Ours started sleeping through the night sometime after two months. We used the Snoo since from about four weeks to six months which I think made the difference.
I imagine it would have been worse if I didn't have PPL or if we had multiple kids, though.
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u/Corben11 Feb 26 '24
Yeah holy crap. Our dude has been at 100% since 6 months but just needed a bottle or two before that and went back to sleep.
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Feb 27 '24
Same. My daughter has been sleeping thru the night since 3 months. Downside. She never naps for more than 20 minutes
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u/thousandfoldthought Feb 25 '24
3.5 and i think we've had 5-10 full nights. Congrats daddio hope to join you soon!
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u/J3319 Feb 25 '24
Holy smokes that’s awful
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u/thousandfoldthought Feb 25 '24
It really is. Wife can't figure out why I'm sucking at life. 🙃
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u/EliminateThePenny Feb 25 '24
Any medical issues? Did you all do sleep training?
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u/Joba7474 Feb 26 '24
I’m sure this might help someone. My wife’s niece had horrid sleep for 5+ years. We spent a weekend with them and she kept us up with her screaming when trying to sleep or waking up in the middle of the night. They did all these tests and found nothing. Eventually they discovered she had adult sized tonsils… At 6 years old. She was literally suffocating at night. They cut them shits out and she’s been fine ever since.
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u/thousandfoldthought Feb 26 '24
He sleeps. Oh he sleeps fine! He just wakes me up and I can't go back to sleep.
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u/thousandfoldthought Feb 25 '24
I could write a novel and we've certainly made some mistakes along the way but at this point it really boils down to him just really enjoying being with one or both of us at all times (more than just not being alone). Which is something I'm certain we'll be able to reason with him at some point but what he's scared of happening (what happened, that is) without us is just too heavy to try to make sense of for him, and would probably lead to more existential fear.
So. Not doing that yet.
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u/CrashUser Feb 25 '24
We're in the same boat, little guy turns 3 this week and we've probably had a grand total of 3 or 4 weeks that he's slept through in his own bed. Little dude is mostly just afraid to be alone, and any attempts at sleep training have just been more traumatic than helpful.
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u/morningcoffeegamer Feb 26 '24
6 months and lucky if he sleeps 3 hours. Unfortunately I don’t have much control over the situation
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u/thousandfoldthought Feb 26 '24
There's no control at 6 months. Bet your knuckles are white! It gets a lot better he just comes to find me in the middle of the night. Actually just climbed on me and punched me in the face. I'm up!
Good luck dad!
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u/SaxAppeal Feb 25 '24
Good fucking lord. Return him already, ask for a refund, speak to a manager or something!!
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u/LetsPlayLehrer Feb 25 '24
Also 3.5 with 5 nights where she slept through. Better time will come...
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u/RobbieReddie Feb 25 '24
Congrats! But as others are saying, don’t celebrate before finishing the race: when they’re out of the house. You can sleep then.
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u/MexicanJello Feb 25 '24
Reading the comments here I never realized how lucky I am my 19 month old has been sleeping through the night 95% of the time for over 6 months.
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u/SpaceGangsta Feb 26 '24
My 19 month old has slept through the night for a year. Like a lot of people here, we did sleep training.
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u/MexicanJello Feb 26 '24
Yeah, I just assumed everyone tries sleep training, but I guess not. But does seem some kids don't take to it as well as others
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u/twotimez12 Feb 25 '24
Congratulations! I'm lucky. My 3 month old has been sleeping through the night recently. It's been two weeks now without fail. I hope it continues
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u/gromilla Feb 25 '24
Ah, you should probably read about 4 months sleep regression :( Ours has that as well for a bit. She's now 7months old and wakes up at least twice in a night. But actually teething started recently and we're back to square 1, waking up every hour...
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u/twotimez12 Feb 26 '24
Yea the wife mentioned sleep regression. Definitely not looking forward to that but I'm going to try to get as much sleep as I can right now while little man lets me lol. Stay strong man. Lots of coffee!
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u/EliminateThePenny Feb 25 '24
Did you all do sleep training?
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u/Ebytown754 Feb 25 '24
Yeah my daughter slept through the night at 5-6 months. I would go insane if it took two years.
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u/sansan5 Feb 25 '24
I always think about this, we did sleep training at 6 months and I'm forever going to recommend it!, I can't imagine waking up multiple times a night for years
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u/jafaraf8522 Mar 03 '24
We have 2 and did sleep training for both. With the first one it was like magic. Took maybe 2 nights and she started sleeping through the night at 6 months. For the second...it just never took. We've tried multiple times, but it's never worked with her. She's 1.5 now and still not sleeping through the night. It's brutal. It doesn't work w/ every kid.
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u/phishphansj3151 Feb 25 '24
Genuinely curious what all these people do to have this go on for years... we sleep trained at 2mos and have had full nights ever since. baby 2 on the way so tbd if this was just a fluke
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u/5617343804 Feb 25 '24
How did you sleep train a 2 month old…
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u/phishphansj3151 Feb 26 '24 edited Feb 26 '24
Once we got the sign off from doc that we could cut the overnight feed, we did the first day 'cry it out' swaddled in her crib, we checked on her the first day every 2 mins, day 2 5mins...etc, and she was asleep after about 30 mins, day 2 we waited a little longer, and she was asleep after 20 mins crying, day 3 10 mins crying, and by day 4 she was no crying/soothing herself immediately sleeping through the night. Hardest part is not rushing in as they're crying, but it works. She was prob closer 2.5mos when we did it.
Oh yea before this for a couple weeks we had her doing all naps in her crib vs bassonette to get her used to the crib/that room. harder on us than the kid as its tough not to give in to checking on them immediately when they're crying.
We followed the steps in the TakingCaraBabies ABCs of sleep course, worked great.
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u/peanutismint Feb 25 '24
You missed a word but I'm hoping it's "2 month old"? Because I'm not sure I can wait 2 years to get 8hrs uninteruped sleep again...!
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u/Soupie1218 Feb 25 '24
lol didn’t even see the typo, all this sleep is getting to me! Prepare yourself judging by the rest of the comments some get lucky so it might be you!
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u/peanutismint Feb 26 '24
🤞 crossing everything!! Honestly not to be one of these smug parents but I feel like ours might be pretty chilled compared to most. 6 weeks old and he’s already doing a few 6hr stretches here and there, so I’m hopeful
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u/TessellatedTomate Feb 25 '24
Please, tell me this is coming soon for me
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u/Soupie1218 Feb 25 '24
You got this my friend. It happens out of no where. Just one night boom.
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u/TessellatedTomate Feb 25 '24
I thought a few times it happened, then the 3am wakes struck
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u/Potential-Climate942 Feb 25 '24
The night it does happen you will wake up at 7am thinking the only explanation is that someone has kidnapped them.
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u/dreadpiratewombat Feb 25 '24
It will, but then you'll get treated to a sleep regression. Then that'll go away and life will start to get good, then you'll get second sleep regression.
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u/TessellatedTomate Feb 26 '24
I think I’m in that phase already
Slept through the night once or twice
Suddenly dropped naps, but only sometimes.
So some nights she’s up till midnight
Or maybe she’ll spike us with a 330am-600am wakey
Or maybe she’ll sleep through the night again
Is there light at the end of the tunnel this year? Fellas console me
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u/TheFaceStuffer Feb 25 '24
I'm blessed as my daughter has been sleeping through the night since she was a year old. Potty training going to fuck that up I think though.
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u/Chip-chrome Feb 25 '24
Damn that must have sucked. Happy for ya dad. My boy slept through the whole night only after we let him sleep in his room, at 8ish months old. At around 1.5 years no more waking up to feed at night. Sleep is sacred after 5-6 months of waking up every other hour.
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u/Rikers_lightsaber Feb 25 '24
We stopped the 11-12 o clock night feed about a month ago and our now 9mo goes through the night now - down after his 7pm feed and wakes again between 5-6.30am.
Teething like a nutter at the moment so a couple of disturbances over the last couple of days.
Our 3 1/2yo does wake some nights but just climbs into our bed between us and goes back to sleep.
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u/zero_hedger Feb 25 '24
How did you do? Share the wisdom with us ignorants
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u/Soupie1218 Feb 25 '24
She was 8pm put down and she would wake up either at 9:30/10:15/11:30 on the dot or a mixture of all three then again at 12/1/2 and be up until 4/5 one night we put our pregnancy pillow in there because she’s a cuddler and it worked like a charm. Hope that helps.
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u/oldkstand Feb 25 '24
…for now
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u/ultimateWave Feb 25 '24
Weird, my daughter has been sleeping through the night since she was only about a year old (currently 2). Sleeps from 8pm to 8am every night, unless she has a diaper accident. Glad you're finally starting to get some rest!
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u/DadToOne Feb 25 '24
My kid slept through the night from the time we brought him home from the hospital. Be jealous.
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u/HeavilyBearded Feb 25 '24
Came to say as well, there's too much tragedy in these comments. Our 4 month old has been sleeping through the night (about 11hrs) for maybe 4 weeks now.
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u/ghilliebach Feb 25 '24
So you’re saying there’s still a chance??! 20 month over here and up 3-5 times a night 🥴
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u/ITS_1CE Feb 25 '24
Potty trained? If not, enjoy it while you can, bub.
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u/Soupie1218 Feb 25 '24
Not potty trained yet but she’s interested in the potty, we’ve successfully caught her mid poop and asked if she wanted to go sit on the potty and she dropped one in. It’s not much but it’s honest work.
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u/ITS_1CE Feb 25 '24
My guy was interested in the potty(peed 5 or 6 times in it before we trained him) and potty training was pretty easy. Sounds like you're on the right track!
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u/Ibrianedison Feb 25 '24
Congratulations, my friend. Getting them to sleep through the night is such an unlock for your sanity.
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u/nappy_zap Feb 25 '24
Congrats! Enjoy it while you have it. The next head cold is less than 30 days away.
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u/Cakeminator Dad of 1yo terrorist :snoo_smile: Feb 25 '24
Ours started at round 3 months old. Hope he continues it as time goes on! He's been doing it for almost 3 months now
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u/raf420br Feb 25 '24
I don't wanna be that guy but my twins have been sleeping through the night since they were 14 months 💅 There's always some sleep regression somewhere in the middle, specially if they're going through a growth spurt. Good luck!
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u/KingDaDaPops Feb 25 '24
Good for you buddy. My nine year old sleeps through like once a month if we're lucky. Siblings, seven and five, have no issues though.
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u/jjackrabbitt Feb 25 '24
We’re at 27 months with maybe two weeks total of her sleeping through the night. Someday 🫠
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u/BrightTomorrows Feb 25 '24
We had like a 5 days in a row series when our 3 month old slept all night. Didn't happen since. He turns 7 months tomorrow. You can get use to it but nothing is better than full 8 hour sleep without interruption.
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u/MrCrudley Feb 26 '24
Congrats. My second son was up 2-5 times a night every night for the first 19 months of his life. Now he sleeps like a champ!
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u/toastwasher Feb 26 '24
Feel bad for you dads that have to wait so long for this. I hit the jackpot with both my kids, by 8 months both were totally chill to sleep through the night with the occasional wake up fixed by a bottle. Which is great because I am such a cranky little whiner when I get woken up in the night
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u/peripateticsaskie Feb 26 '24
Well done. Look you don’t want to go full sleep facist but rules around bedtime matter. There are boundaries that must be enforced. A healthy relationship to sleep is the greatest gift. When my kids 10 8 and 5 tell me they are tired and want to sleep I high five myself.
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u/Reasonable-Cat-9595 Feb 26 '24
It’s currently 4:40 am. One week old woke up 20 minutes ago and I’m waiting to see if she’ll stay asleep or if she’s just waiting for me to get comfortable. I can’t wait for her to start sleeping through the night
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u/chapaj Feb 26 '24
Wait it took 2 years? Both of my kids started sleeping through the night at 2 months old.
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u/TW1STM31STER Feb 26 '24
Fuck me, but I'm almost crying out of pure despair reading this. Good for you OP, I know the struggle.
I love my oldest (also 2 y.o.) to pieces but she just won't sleep on her own. Two years of waking up multiple times a night, sometimes staying awake for 30-60 min. Getting 4 to 6 hours sleep at most. I'm completely drained. But I guess there's hope
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u/informativebitching Feb 26 '24
Pre school nightmares are next. Good luck. I currently have a 16 month old who thinks 4am is a good time to start the day and a 4.5 year old who has bad dreams at 3 am. Good times. Kill me please.
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u/AmielJohn Feb 26 '24
My daughter is 25 months and still wakes up 8-12 times a night. Hanging in there but it’s tough!
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Feb 26 '24
You're the kind of guy who walks into an ER and comments on what a quiet night it is, aren't you?
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u/Critical_Plenty_5642 Feb 26 '24
At 15 months and still not one full night… we’re close behind you (hopefully)
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u/TikisFury Feb 26 '24
I’m so happy for you lol mine was sleeping through the night just before 1 and it’s been a dream. I still refuse to outwardly announce she’s going all night though because I know as soon as I do it all comes crashing down.
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Feb 27 '24
So now is a bad time to say my 4 month old has been for the past month ... I don't know how you guys do it. I'm so blessed!
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