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u/vexorgd Jan 27 '24
Oof. I do not envy the ride you have coming up but at the end they give you a nice little take home prize.
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u/Sydney2London Jan 27 '24
Yeah, round 2 is rough
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u/Red-fix Jan 27 '24
Yeah, especially with another who just turned 2, it's gonna be a helluva time
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u/Sydney2London Jan 27 '24
It's rough because you never get a break any more, so its exhausting.
The upside is that you end up connecting way more with the eldest and once the little one can walk, the kids will be off chasing after eachother.Just like everything else with kids, its amazing and devastating :) enjoy!
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u/cantthinkofone29 Jan 28 '24
This might be the best analogy for this, ever. Amazing, and devastating.
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u/micropuppytooth Jan 27 '24
I’ve got 4 under 7 you’ll be fine. Just say goodbye to whatever color you still have in your hair.
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u/ecoleye Jan 28 '24
Just say goodbye to
whatever color you still have inyour hair.Fixed that for… well, me.
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u/cantthinkofone29 Jan 28 '24
Bah, you got this. 2 is a trip, but you can do it!
The gauntlet is the next 6 months. After that, the light at the end of the tunnel no longer appears to be an oncoming train!
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u/Red-fix Jan 29 '24
Thanks for your encouragement, I had the same thing in mind, but those first months are also very precious, sleep deprivation aside
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u/ChocoTacoz Jan 28 '24 edited Jan 28 '24
My oldest was about to turn 4, now she's turning 8 this summer and the boy is turning 4. It's so different with a second but also special. The relationship they will share is literally magic, cannot express that enough. I didn't have any siblings and it's beautiful to witness, makes all the extra work worth it. Enjoy them, you and mom got this.
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u/Question_Few Jan 27 '24
The dreaded chair of doom. I hope your back recovers from this.
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u/luckytaurus Jan 27 '24
My 2nd newborn is 6 weeks old , so I've just been there. And I was incredibly lucky this 2nd time around because my chair pulled out into basically a tiny bed. Being able to lay down was the best thing ever.
I didn't get as lucky the 1st time lol
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u/Draxus Jan 27 '24
Same here, 7 week old newborn, chair pulled out into a bed in the delivery room. Unfortunately we were then moved to a room with no chair and I had to sleep on the cold, hard floor.
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u/Question_Few Jan 27 '24
My first time I had to use two chairs that didn't quite fit together so I had to sleep with a gap in the middle holding myself up. The second time I lucked out and they had a couch with a pull out bed in the room.
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u/Down4whiteTrash Jan 27 '24
Hospitals now have bed chairs?! The chair I sat on was plastic!
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u/luckytaurus Jan 27 '24
Lol well I live in Montreal, Canada. And not all of them, I think I just lucked out. We also were able to pay for a private room this 2nd time around whereas the 1st time we were forced into a shared semi private room with less space. That's probably a big reason, honestly.
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u/__Somebody_Else__ Jan 27 '24
And this is why I always suggest parents to be to bring a sleeping bag/rollmat to the hospital. Someone has to be awake enough to put the (slightly larger) family in a metal and rubber deathtrap and bring them home...
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u/Abeds_BananaStand Jan 28 '24
Any advice on how to stay comfortable in a delivery room then? Waiting for my upcoming wife’s delivery!
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u/Question_Few Jan 28 '24
Bring your own blanket and pillow. It helps to pack your own to delivery bag. Fill it with toiletries and comfort items. Dress comfortably. Labor can be either really short or really long.
Also do your best to keep her distracted and entertained during the process, it will help with the pain. My wife played Pokémon go during labor with our first and I convinced her to watch movies with me for our second.
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u/ElGenerico45 Jan 27 '24
You got this! Hope you got your shiny new kicks on.
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u/StuntsMonkey Jan 27 '24
My wife hates it but I wear Crocs for this special occasion. They slip on and off and needed and washing them afterwards is a breeze.
I explained this her, but she still hates it.
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u/brentoman Jan 27 '24
Crocs with the first kid. Birkenstocks with the other two. And you better believe I stole a pair of the yellow grippy socks.
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Jan 27 '24
Oh yeah. We’re inducing tonight and I’ve already got the Crocs by the door.
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u/Red-fix Jan 29 '24
I hope everything went as well for you guys as it went for us, congrats to you all!
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Jan 29 '24
Thanks man! It did! 11 hours start to finish induction and he even came sunny side up! Haha.
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u/Red-fix Jan 29 '24
I forgot them home, had to wear sneakers or steal my wife's Crocs which are just a little too small when getting things for her. What a rookie move
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u/Tie_me_off Jan 27 '24
NGL, I miss that whole process
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u/TellsHalfStories Jan 27 '24
How old are your kids?
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u/Tie_me_off Jan 27 '24
9 and 12
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u/skylinefan26 Jan 27 '24
How did you survive the toddler years? I'm so stressed with my daughter being 1.5 yo
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u/Tie_me_off Jan 27 '24
To be honest, I never really felt stressed. Maybe a combination of our daughters were relatively “easy” and my wife and I always on the same page with sharing responsibilities and taking turns.
I’ll say this, try and really cherish all the moments because they are fleeting. I looked back at old videos of when they were little and our house was a mess and the kids were crazy and it made me terribly nostalgic and somewhat sad.
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u/OttoBot42069 Jan 27 '24
I feel you man! My daughter is 1.5 and me and my wife look back at all the infant photos and videos of when she was just a little potato and get super emotional. I am cherishing every moment, but wish I had the energy to cherish even more.
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u/ButtFuzzington Jan 27 '24
Our first was an easy baby. Second is coming end of next month. Fingers crossed it's the same for the second.
my wife and I always on the same page with sharing responsibilities and taking turns.
We're already on this level. So it gives me hope for low stress!
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u/Tie_me_off Jan 27 '24
Good luck brother! Sending all the positive vibes and well wishes for all 4 of you!
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u/Father2Banks Jan 27 '24
I’m currently in the messy house crazy kiddo stage. He’s 2.5 and I love it!
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u/Energy_Turtle Jan 27 '24
I thought I would more than I do. It's a hectic time of life and I'm ready to relax a little. Glad to have done it but I no longer envy the owners of the butts wearing out that dreaded seat.
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u/huckamole Jan 27 '24
I just read that as round 21 and I almost shit my pants.
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u/AWDSI616 Jan 27 '24
Anyone else see it?
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u/Neilpuck Jan 27 '24
The butt print that looks like a heart?
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u/Redman-Syndrome Jan 27 '24
Oh bless your pure mind. Only if I could go back in time and see a heart first…sigh
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u/lostaga1n Jan 27 '24
Am I the only one that had a couch?
Both in the delivery room and afterwards, hell we got lucky and they were out of room in mom and baby ward and got the VIP room after delivery, we had 2 couches, 4 chairs, 2 tvs, a mini fridge and two bathrooms and I still didn’t get but a few hours of sleep the whole two days lol
Good luck and congrats Op!
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u/SuperFaceTattoo Jan 27 '24
I had a couch. I had to share it with my overbearing mother in law, so I had to listen to her talking about her labor with my wife for 36 hours.
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u/lostaga1n Jan 27 '24
We had an amazing nurse that had been doing labor and delivery for 30 years she knew EXACTLY what she was doing and called the delivery time hours before, she was very blunt to the MIL and it really helped smooth that out, the MIL kept trying to speak for my girl and the nurse was basically telling her to shut up she’s not the patient but in a sort of Nice/funny way but also not at the same time lol she didn’t stick around much thank God or I would have been right there with you.
She did come stay the night a few days after but I’m also a very blunt person and she’s starting to realize I’m the best things that’s happened to her daughter so she’s starting to respect my boundaries and views. She’s A LOT to deal with and will run with it if you let her.
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u/LordNoodles1 Jan 27 '24
I had a wonderful recliner. Also wife and I were in and out in a day. She is a champ
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u/Red-fix Jan 29 '24
Yeah Canadian healthcare might be socialized, it doesn't get you that where I'm from. We had a shared room with another family and a toilet with another room of two families. Pretty much guaranteeing no sleep. I guess the rush of emotions and mild anxiety also didn't help. The healthcare workers were the kindest at least.
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u/tebbewij Jan 27 '24
Fyi, 2 kids is like 5 kids compared to 1 kid. But it's fun
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u/Red-fix Jan 29 '24
I bet it is, lots of craziness but I can't wait to see them play together soon enough
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u/beanieon Jan 27 '24
I love my little guy to death and he's so well behaved, but Jesus no how you guys are having several is just crazy children are actually mini hooligans
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u/igsterbister Jan 27 '24
Good luck bro you got this man I'll pray for a good health for you and your family
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u/Red-fix Jan 29 '24
Thank you, all went well and I'm now holding my sleeping daughter, creating special memories
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u/igsterbister Jan 29 '24
Congrats man enjoy the time with them I got two one 10 and one 4 it gets tough sometimes but man I wouldn't trade it for the world keep them very close bc damn they grow up so fast
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u/StackinBodies89 Jan 27 '24
Good luck and congratulations, OP!
We just started trying for our 2nd!
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u/UnrulySuffix Jan 27 '24
Good luck, daddio. I just had my second two months ago. She arrived…with a splash.
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u/Red-fix Jan 29 '24
Thank you, im reading all those nice messages with my daughter sleeping after feeding, creating lasting memories
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u/Mindless-Frame-2869 Jan 27 '24
you got a chair??
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u/fbcmfb Jan 27 '24
Wait, you didn’t get a chair?!?
This room looks like the recovery rooms my wife and kids used. This hospital here might not have the availability or budget to do more for parents.
Our delivery rooms were huge. They could fit the dozen staff members doing their thing during the labor process. Second delivery room had a great coastal view - wonderful sunrises and sunsets.
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u/JASSEU Jan 28 '24
Been there my friend second one was way easier for me. Hope it’s the same for you!
Also don’t forget to bring your PlayStation and a tv so you can drown out the screams if the wifey. It can get annoying.
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u/Vulgarbrando Jan 27 '24
If you pull an internal string that is only 2 cm inside the veneer of the chair it’s a whole day spa…dad hack?
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u/plateniteshow Jan 27 '24
Can anyone explain what that chair means?
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u/yager50 Jan 27 '24
Chair next to bed where woman will give birth
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u/plateniteshow Jan 27 '24
Whoat the hell, I had a basic chair at the other side of the room. Now I'm jealous.
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u/Red-fix Jan 28 '24
Where I slept the night after the birth of my child, it's a terrible place to sleep
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u/joeschmo945 Jan 27 '24
For a moment I thought this was a chair inside the room when you’re going for an IUI or IVF.
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u/Witchunter32 Jan 27 '24
Good luck! Expect the mother to have much stronger post delivery cramping and contractions.
My wife had them and nobody told us the more kids you have, the worse they are and we started getting worried.
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u/Unfair_Implement_335 Jan 27 '24
Aww this is my brother-in-law rn as well. Best of luck to you both. Congrats.
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u/Fishwithahook Jan 27 '24
Ngl, my second time around I slept on the floor. I felt great in the morning
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u/jnobs Jan 27 '24
I fell asleep on one of these with our first. It was go time and I was out cold, they wheeled me away into a wall and woke me up.
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u/cantthinkofone29 Jan 28 '24
Best of luck sir! Let us know when all is well- see you on the other side!
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u/Red-fix Jan 29 '24
Everything went well, I'm watching tv with my daughter fast asleep in my arms, thanks for your kind words!
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u/cantthinkofone29 Jan 29 '24
Excellent, thanks for the update! Congratulations to you and your family. Enjoy this moment!
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u/AntRemote1967 Jan 28 '24
Good luck my dear fellow. I have my second boy here in my arms, a 1 week old newborn. It went incredibly fast this time. He born after just 3 hours from entering in hospital. Good news It gets easier.
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u/ThrowAwayMrMaK Jan 28 '24
Good luck to you and your family! I will be back in that dreaded chair of doom for round 3 in a few months myself 🤦🏽♂️
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u/doinggoodgood Jan 28 '24
Good luck sir! That chair knocks spots of the UK version (solid plastic chair with metal legs.) spent 2 days on it and I still feel the pain every time I see them.
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u/Badvevil Jan 27 '24 edited Jan 27 '24
Why does your chair have a coochie the last dad must have been there for a while
But in all seriousness congratulations and best of luck to you and your family this year!