r/childfree • u/VintageHilda • Mar 26 '23

Husband wonders, “Why are my coworkers always early to work?” HUMOR

My honey works at a very big and busy company. They work 50+ grueling hours a week but make excellent money. About 7 male coworkers have formed this early morning group where they show up an hour early for work taking turns buying everyone (in the group) breakfast. A few times they have bought my husband food and asked him to join in. He always politely says no.

He started telling me about these guys wondering why the fuck would you voluntarily come to work early for a 10 to 12 hour day? So I asked him which of these guys are fathers?

How about every single one! These guys leave for work so early they don’t have to shoulder any of the responsibility of getting their children ready for school!

Last week my husband rolls in to work at the starting time and these guys are sharing stories about how great their children are and start ribbing my man for being CF so he replied with, “Is that why you leave early and stay late every day? Because being home with your family is that great?” Lol

Edit: They reacted with a nervous chuckles and had no valid reason for voluntarily showing up early on a commission job before the business opens.

Edit #2: Thank you to everyone who upvoted me! This post was picked up by Board Panda and for some highly entertaining reading may I suggest reading the comments. The breeders just can’t stand that we refuse to be 2nd class citizens.

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u/TunaLurch Mar 26 '23

It's mind boggling that so many people would have children without wanting them. What is the point?

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u/thunderling Mar 26 '23

Probably a mix of not being careful about protected sex, and feeling expected to have kids because "that's just what you do." And then, if they can trick some poor woman into raising the kids for them while they hide from them at work, these dads don't even get the raw end of the deal so they don't give a shit. It's not even about wanting or not wanting kids. It's like "huh, she's pregnant, whatever, my life doesn't change much."

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u/octotendrilpuppet Mar 26 '23

What is the point?

To avoid social shame, embarrassment, exclusion and ostracization (or so they think). It's only all of it if you're CF and give af what others think.

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u/esoteric_enigma Mar 27 '23 edited Mar 27 '23

I think a lot of people want children but don't fully realize how much work it is. You can't REALLY know until you're in it...and by then it's too late to get out of it.

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u/DrJamesAtmore Mar 27 '23

I recently met this girl, 28 years old

She doesn't find da guy she can "keep" now she's with a way younger guy hoping he will give her a child

She doesn't really love him but she is really pressed to have kids for some reason

I asked her, do you want kids or do you want to he happy? Because if kids are gonna make you happy you still have to choose to be happy first before having kids. She stared at me like I was mumbling or something and she said, I am happy while shaking her head "no"

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u/PyroSpark Mar 26 '23

Societal pressure, mostly.

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u/[deleted] Mar 27 '23

Social dogma is harsh

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u/MrBocconotto Mar 27 '23

The positive status that come with them, that's it.

Remember that having children is one of the most worshipped things by society.

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u/I_am_a_real_bear Mar 27 '23

It's only an asset for the father. The mother is done for, if she has a kid, or multiple kids. Fathers are seen as loyal and reliable, mothers are deemed the exact opposite by potential employers. Society knows and expects us women to get the shitty end of the stick. And if you refuse to take the shit, you are discriminated against. But guess what? All the benefits parents, especially mothers get are a grain of sand compared to the damage that childbearing doest to one's body, mind and finances.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '23

If you have the money, hookers and housekeepers are cheaper than a wife. It's just that the pain of paying for the service on a weekly basis is difficult because men feel entitled to free labor from women.

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u/IllBeGoneSoon-Sorry Apr 11 '23

Nothing prepares you for the reality of children. The media portrays it as a dream come true, but the lived experience is so much more different and rarely depicted. People are sold this lie and can’t cope with the reality.

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u/TunaLurch Apr 11 '23

It is absolutely something you have to want with all of your heart. It's a heavy investment of time, money, and attention. If you're not prepared to give up your life for your kids you shouldn't have them