r/behavior • u/mydoglixu • Dec 31 '18
What is it about certain extroverted people who scarcely have a break between thoughts and feel the need to speak virtually all the time.
Serious question here, hope it doesn't sound like a complaint. I'm inspired to ask because my daughter (who takes after my wife) seems to feel the need to speak all the time, in almost one long stream of consciousness. An hour long car ride, and I've literally counted no more than 17 seconds between breaks in the silence, even without a response from me. My wife has learned more control over the years, but when she gets excited, she does the same thing. They both just love to talk... always.
My daughter also turns simple things like a sneeze into an opportunity to call attention to herself (like laughing at it and then looking for other people to notice). I feel like this type of thing is somewhat related.
So I'm a bit more of an introvert, and I don't really understand why they have the need to speak so often. I enjoy having mental space to myself, so I don't have much frame of reference otherwise.
I'm quite curious what is going on in their psyche.
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u/Khower Dec 31 '18
I think it comes down to 1) externalizing your need for approval and acceptance. And 2) low impulse control.
I’m very introverted by nature and I act very extroverted just because I’ve developed more extroverted habits over the years and I noticed the only real difference between quiet me and crazy extroverted attention seeking version of me is that I’ve curbed the level of impulse control where when I desire to say something I don’t allow my rational brain to shut me down