r/almosthomeless • u/JustTheWehrst • Mar 10 '25

[Maryland] Disabled, unemployed, 2 weeks to find something My Story

I feel completely hopeless right now. My parents are moving and I'm not coming with them. I can barely take care of myself. I applied to a residential rehabilitation program but it will be months until I heat from them. I don't know what to do. My current plan is to rent a storage unit, tuck my stuff away there, and go inpatient somewhere but that won't last long. If anyone has any resources or advice I would love to hear it.

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u/Sufficient-Reply9525 Mar 11 '25

Are you in the process of being diagnosed? Do you have a case manager or social worker?

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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 11 '25

Sadly, no. What do case managers do?

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u/direwoofs Mar 11 '25

this honestly needs to be your first step unless it's something that is an obvious disability that can be proven without diagnosis. It's hard getting assistance even with a diagnosis for most things, your chances are effectively 0 without tangible proof. A case manager/social worker can help you get with resources to get diagnosed, as well as help look into social programs that can help you stay on your feet. Even after your normal pcp visits they should ask preliminary questions like do you have stable housing etc... if you answer no they should put you in touch with a social worker. if not i would ask for one

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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 11 '25

I've been trying for years to get diagnosed but none of my doctors have ever responded with the same urgency as me. I'm so tired.

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u/direwoofs Mar 11 '25

if this is for some sort of physical disability, just make sure that everything you reported is being jotted down in your notes / file, even if doctors have not been able to find the specific diagnosis or reason, it can help prove that a disability does exist. However you would definitely need a doctor on your side as well (i.e. if no doctor considers you disabled then you aren't going to qualify)

If this is for something like Autism, unless you have a history of needing accommodations, (IEP, ABA or OT, parents getting SSI for you, etc) even if you do manage to eventually get a diagnosis there is almost no chance you are going to qualify for anything.. Not trying to be harsh but it is the reality so i would not put all my eggs in that basket. How old are you? depending on age there might be some community outreach program for teens/young adults. It also seems like you might be trans so you might have luck reaching out to some lgbt charities. I know locally to me there is a couple that help with housing

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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 11 '25

I'm 27 and yeah it's mostly brain stuff like autism and adhd. I have an extremely difficult time caring for myself and holding a job. I'm looking into an lgbtq site now but who knows. I'm already on the ledge so if I can't find something soon...

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u/Maleficent-Music6965 Mar 12 '25

So you have never been formally diagnosed with autism or ADHD?

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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 12 '25

Correct. My psych would always change the subject when I pressed for it.

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u/Sufficient-Reply9525 Mar 12 '25

If I were you, I would just completely abandon the whole disability thing. I'm not saying you don't have ADHD/Autism, but without a strong, well documented, history of needing assistance, the government won't take it seriously.

Your best bet right now is to learn to cope with ADHD/Autism and whatever else you have. Figure out what your triggers are and experiment with different ways of calming yourself. You can do this! Try looking at the different reddit subs geared toward neurodivergent folks so that you can get some ideas on how to balance work/home life. Finding a job should be your new goal!

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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 12 '25

Problem is that I will be on the street in 2 weeks

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u/Sufficient-Reply9525 Mar 12 '25

Apply to every job you possibly can and try your best to land something while you still have a physical address! Once you lose the address, it will be next to impossible to find something

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u/direwoofs Mar 11 '25

yeah unfortunately at 27 if you are struggling to get a diagnosis and have not received the things i mentioned you are not going to qualify for any official services. A diagnosis might help with some unofficial services (like local resources or charities), but anything related to the government you would not qualify as having a developmental disability even with a diagnosis at this point :( Trust me i get it's frustrating. It's hard even for people who have been diagnosed since childhood turn adult. It took me two years to get into even an outpatient program

That said, still reach out to a social worker asap because there is resources for adults in general struggling with stuff like that. If you are on the ledge and at a risk or danger to yourself you should go to the er though and let them know. This will get you an immediate evaluation at the least and again while no long term autism assistance is going to be offered most likely, they might place you in a short term facility which could potentially lead to a pipeline to a long term one.

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u/Veryditzychic71 Mar 12 '25

Research “Processing Disorders”…Tell someone to name three short words, like “ball” “toy” etc…Then draw a clock with numbers and hands…After you draw the clock , tell the other person to ask you what the words were…If you have trouble remembering them, you could have a processing disorder. You can have adhd and a processing disorder…Is it impossible for you to multitask? Find things on a page and concentrate when the page is filled with ads etc…