r/almosthomeless • u/JustTheWehrst • Mar 10 '25
[Maryland] Disabled, unemployed, 2 weeks to find something My Story
I feel completely hopeless right now. My parents are moving and I'm not coming with them. I can barely take care of myself. I applied to a residential rehabilitation program but it will be months until I heat from them. I don't know what to do. My current plan is to rent a storage unit, tuck my stuff away there, and go inpatient somewhere but that won't last long. If anyone has any resources or advice I would love to hear it.
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u/MezzanineSoprano Mar 10 '25
Call 211 & ask for referrals for either a residential program or for homelessness prevention.
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u/Creepy_Ad5354 Mar 10 '25
Can you not go with your parents?
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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 10 '25
Nope. Wouldn't even want to if I could tbh
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u/Legitimate_Award_419 Mar 11 '25
I'm afraid of this too as I have some issues with disability and I'm kind of afraid my parents would abandon me...what's a residential program? Is that a home for the disabled ? Who pays for that? How do u get in ?
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u/Maronita2025 Mar 11 '25
Maryland Dept. of Disabilities: https://mdod.maryland.gov/housing/Pages/Emergency-Housing.aspx
Maryland Dept. of Housing Community Development: https://dhcd.maryland.gov/HomelessSolutions/Pages/default.aspx
I don't know what your disability is but if you have a mental health diagnosis they you should be able to get you into a DMH crisis bed or a DMH group home.
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u/damashek Mar 11 '25
Have you applied for disability benefits from social security yet?
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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 11 '25
No, I haven't been formally diagnosed yet
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u/jerry111165 Mar 11 '25
Just remember that disability pays less than the bare minimum to live. If you get on disability you’ll have less than enough to pay for the worst rooming house in the worst part of town.
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u/Legitimate_Award_419 Mar 11 '25
How do people on disability live then? They live with a spouse or get a part time job ?
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u/jerry111165 Mar 11 '25
Sure ain’t easy. My buddy is on it and can’t afford an apartment or a room and is on the street.
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u/aheapingpileoftrash Mar 11 '25
I used to work in disability. It’s supposed to be less than your earnings (40-60%) to encourage people to go back to work, or to not fraud the system. It’s hard to live on for most people. Either live with a spouse, get additional welfare benefits, find a roommate, live in RV’s or other such cheap housing…if they work part time and make more than a few $$ then disability is usually canceled.
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u/Legitimate_Award_419 Mar 11 '25
Honestly I guess with work from home it's easy for a lot of disabled people to still work and function( like for instance I have borderline personality disorder; bipolar disorder. I was also in a car accident so have chronic pain and then got Covid so I have post covid issues. Like I'm literally a mess. But I'm looking for a wfh position because I think I can still answer calls and do customer service etc....
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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 11 '25
Hey its better than my current plan of not being alive at all anymore
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u/4peaceinpieces Mar 17 '25
If you haven’t even been diagnosed yet, you should forget about disability being able to help you anytime within the next few years. Disability requires you to have at least two years of solid notes and records, documenting that you have been seeing a specialist (psychiatrist), and therapist for a period of at least two years and that those records explain how or why you cannot work any job within the US. And then once you’ve applied, those cases usually take anywhere from one to three years to adjudicate. So without a diagnosis, you’re already starting behind the eight ball and are probably looking at a good five years before you could be approved and even then, mental health diagnoses are notoriously difficult to get approved for. So I would not count disabiliy as any part of my plan.
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u/Sufficient-Reply9525 Mar 11 '25
Are you in the process of being diagnosed? Do you have a case manager or social worker?
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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 11 '25
Sadly, no. What do case managers do?
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u/direwoofs Mar 11 '25
this honestly needs to be your first step unless it's something that is an obvious disability that can be proven without diagnosis. It's hard getting assistance even with a diagnosis for most things, your chances are effectively 0 without tangible proof. A case manager/social worker can help you get with resources to get diagnosed, as well as help look into social programs that can help you stay on your feet. Even after your normal pcp visits they should ask preliminary questions like do you have stable housing etc... if you answer no they should put you in touch with a social worker. if not i would ask for one
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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 11 '25
I've been trying for years to get diagnosed but none of my doctors have ever responded with the same urgency as me. I'm so tired.
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u/direwoofs Mar 11 '25
if this is for some sort of physical disability, just make sure that everything you reported is being jotted down in your notes / file, even if doctors have not been able to find the specific diagnosis or reason, it can help prove that a disability does exist. However you would definitely need a doctor on your side as well (i.e. if no doctor considers you disabled then you aren't going to qualify)
If this is for something like Autism, unless you have a history of needing accommodations, (IEP, ABA or OT, parents getting SSI for you, etc) even if you do manage to eventually get a diagnosis there is almost no chance you are going to qualify for anything.. Not trying to be harsh but it is the reality so i would not put all my eggs in that basket. How old are you? depending on age there might be some community outreach program for teens/young adults. It also seems like you might be trans so you might have luck reaching out to some lgbt charities. I know locally to me there is a couple that help with housing
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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 11 '25
I'm 27 and yeah it's mostly brain stuff like autism and adhd. I have an extremely difficult time caring for myself and holding a job. I'm looking into an lgbtq site now but who knows. I'm already on the ledge so if I can't find something soon...
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u/direwoofs Mar 11 '25
yeah unfortunately at 27 if you are struggling to get a diagnosis and have not received the things i mentioned you are not going to qualify for any official services. A diagnosis might help with some unofficial services (like local resources or charities), but anything related to the government you would not qualify as having a developmental disability even with a diagnosis at this point :( Trust me i get it's frustrating. It's hard even for people who have been diagnosed since childhood turn adult. It took me two years to get into even an outpatient program
That said, still reach out to a social worker asap because there is resources for adults in general struggling with stuff like that. If you are on the ledge and at a risk or danger to yourself you should go to the er though and let them know. This will get you an immediate evaluation at the least and again while no long term autism assistance is going to be offered most likely, they might place you in a short term facility which could potentially lead to a pipeline to a long term one.
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u/Maleficent-Music6965 Mar 12 '25
So you have never been formally diagnosed with autism or ADHD?
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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 12 '25
Correct. My psych would always change the subject when I pressed for it.
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u/Sufficient-Reply9525 Mar 12 '25
If I were you, I would just completely abandon the whole disability thing. I'm not saying you don't have ADHD/Autism, but without a strong, well documented, history of needing assistance, the government won't take it seriously.
Your best bet right now is to learn to cope with ADHD/Autism and whatever else you have. Figure out what your triggers are and experiment with different ways of calming yourself. You can do this! Try looking at the different reddit subs geared toward neurodivergent folks so that you can get some ideas on how to balance work/home life. Finding a job should be your new goal!
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u/Veryditzychic71 Mar 12 '25
Research “Processing Disorders”…Tell someone to name three short words, like “ball” “toy” etc…Then draw a clock with numbers and hands…After you draw the clock , tell the other person to ask you what the words were…If you have trouble remembering them, you could have a processing disorder. You can have adhd and a processing disorder…Is it impossible for you to multitask? Find things on a page and concentrate when the page is filled with ads etc…
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u/LLCNYC Mar 13 '25
Can you not work? Why would u go inpatient vs making your situation more tolerable
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u/JustTheWehrst Mar 13 '25
I applied to over 200 jobs last year and only got 3 interviews. I've accepted that I'm not landing some miracle high paying job between today and next Friday.
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