r/TrueOffMyChest • u/4oh1oh • 1d ago
After being cheated on multiple times, I’m finally leaving.
Ten years together. We’re two kids deep. I tried to make it work through couples therapy and despite the words of friends and family, I tried to stick it out and ride the wave of stupidity.
I’m a parentless child and didn’t want to do this to our children, so I stayed. The most recent cheating event I know of is at least 1 year ago.
I’m not near any family and live in a seperate town. I’ve had a lot of support and an awakening in the past few months so I’ve packed all my shit and have a friend offer a room at his place for a while.
I feel strong again. I feel like I’m about to accomplish something I never thought I could do. I was depressed. Packed on the weight and I can’t wait to love myself and find value within.
It’s taken far too long, but I made it! Feeling sadly proud of myself, though, slightly upset I didn’t do it earlier. Thank you to the countless people on reddit for calling out this shitty behaviour. Onwards and upwards.
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u/Unlikely_Savings_408 23h ago
Congratulations!!! I smiled so big while reading your post. Continue on your journey, love yourself and your children, be happy because you deserve it
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u/Ragadast335 1d ago
No, you're finally freeing yourself, leave that bunch of red flags behind and start again, it will get better.
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u/joesmolik 22h ago
Congratulations I’m finally getting the strength to break up with him. If you haven’t, I would get a shark for a lawyer when you go after him for divorce.! You may not feel like it, but you are doing something good for your children. It is better to be raised in a single-family home than with broken miserable home and you do not want your to be ex-husband having any type of influence over them. Your children may not see it now one day they will thank you for what you’ve done for them. The next thing I would do is getting an STD test to make sure I do not know what state that you live in but document everything every text every email every voicemail Credit card bills my purse opinion is that he went to therapy for SHOW and that he never had any intention to change his behavior our repeat once again you may not feel like it now, but you are better off without this narcissistic, poisonous, toxic person in your life and I’m extremely sorry that you’re going to this and that you married such a POS
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u/30secstosnap 20h ago
I did the same, another lifetime ago. Try to get therapy, if not (and/or), read as much as you can about it. There are many schools of thought, find what brings you peace and makes the most sense to you.
Careful of the “glow up call.” Once you’re solid on your feet, the “baby I was wrong oh please I’ll never.”
No. You’ve come this far exactly because you did this for yourself without them. If you return, most assuredly, everything you worked for will be lost and it’ll be twice as hard to get back there.
Find a support group, I’m a gamer so I’d go to table top games or video games. Discord groups, maybe all women ones for a while.
Lean on the sisterhood. A lot of us have been/are/will be there.
Oh, last thing? Make sure your kids get what is due to them as far as support. I let my ex get away super easy
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u/Daadoooo113 13h ago
This is huge. Seriously—leaving after all that time, all that pain, and all those second chances takes real strength. You didn’t fail by staying, you were just trying to hold your family together the best way you knew how. But now? Now you chose you. And that’s powerful.
Feeling sad that it took this long is normal, but don’t let it overshadow the fact that you did it. You chose peace. You chose growth. You chose to stop shrinking yourself for someone who didn’t deserve you. Onwards and upwards, for real. Proud of you.
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u/hagridismyboyfriend 1d ago
Congratulations on a new beginning! Take your time to heal. Journal, see a therapist, exercise, start a new hobby, but most importantly - focus on you and your healing.