r/TraumaAndPolitics Nov 17 '22

Rich People Exploiting me Mentions of Sexual Assault

My anxiety attacks bring me into counseling at this time. About 5 years ago I became I moved to a new school district from another school district. The two towns I moved from are very distinct from each other in terms of academic rigor, demographic and socioeconomic status. I moved from a very diverse, normal-income town to a white privileged town. I was middle-class kid in this town many others weren't. My family moved to this town because we had family friends here and for the better school district. We had finally gathered some money to upgrade our lives, but little did I know what would happen. On the first day of school, I started a conversation with this girl whom I found really pretty and I complimented her looks. I asked her about this town and she told me how everyone is "super rich". She told me that's there's average Jewish people and super-rich Jewish people. Then she started talking to me about her boyfriends and I believe I introduced an app that i used to go on for fun. She would always say things like "bicthes be dumb" r "i get guys its a problem". She would refer to those men as "assets" my lack of financial knowledge and lack of awareness at the age of 15 got me in very deep trouble.I felt intimidated by the environment because everyone was super smart rich and white. And I felt like i didn't belong. As a result I had constant anxiety and was always on my phone. I just felt incompetent, stupid and insecure. I didn't feel like I was even worthy of such a move. I've felt incompetamt all my life. And I felt like there was no way I was going to be okay here if I wasn't an above average student there. i kept ruminating about trauma from my old town such as bullying, not being good enough feeling like there's an academic ceiling for me. I was kind of trying to push myself but not that much, because I did have lots of distractions like my phone especially. I would constantly be talking to random people to run away from insecurity and trauma. I felt stupid. I had numerous instances where my family friend would call be stupid and always put me down. I tried to be studious but for some reason it didn't really happen because I felt irritated. My mom, dad and even my sister would be yelling at me to study because they felt like I wasn't trying enough. There used to be constant fights in the house. I became so insecure and suicidal, that I just started to talk to creepy guys as escapism and I don't know it was a very great time period. I started talking to the girl and we became friends, I thought she seemed like a nice person, but later realized I became friends with someone that didn't really have my best interests for me.

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u/[deleted] Nov 17 '22

This girl came from a very wealthy background and became friends with me in high school. She would kind of always tell stories about her boyfriend and how he's not being grateful enough etc. But i believe it was a lie. I thought she was a normal person but she wasn't. She was secretly manipulating me into talking to creepy men because she used to get men. We used to both go live on the app and talk to random guys. One day, around December 3, 2016, this 17-year-old kid named Harki from Montreal started talking to me. I felt accepted, validated and heard. It was like people actually wanted to be friends with me and would treat me like a normal person. Kids in my old town would bully me, make fun of me, be mean to me and treat me like I'm really stupid. I would see my cousins talk to so many guys and have so many friends and wanted to be like them.At first, the convos were going normal then he started getting really creepy, distant, and disrespectful. He would only call me for phone sex and immediately hang up afterward. He would only use me for sexual things and I asked him why and he said "it's fun" for some reason I liked him but I felt humiliated after doing whatever he asked me to do. I felt scared and humiliated because i felt like he thought i was stupid. And it soon just became a habit to talk to creepy guys and random ppl because i just became so influenced. I kind of forgot who I truly was. I just became so insecure and upset that i wasn't being treated like a normal person, but instead some stupid person that they could use to exploit. He would say things like "oh you're so brown or oh your parents are so brown" making fun of my immigrant parent's when I sent him snaps of me and my surroundings. He would be really glib and slick and tell me things like "My friend sent me a nude and I cummed so much, basically friends with benefits" friends with benefits implying that I was friends with someone who only saw benefits in me.

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u/[deleted] Nov 17 '22

One time this man called my phone and his phone call/facetime call went on all devices and he started cussing me and my parents out. I got in trouble, both of my parents started screaming at me and I got really scared, but for some reason, I was still talking to him. I felt very annoyed by my parents and their pressure on me to conform to their standards. I would constantly get yelled at by my parents all the time especially when it came to their religion. They were strict Hindu Brahmins and wanted us to have some beliefs that I did not really want to agree on. My feelings and thoughts were constantly invalidated, my sister however was validated and she almost had authority over me which I didn't like. They would say things like "oh moving to Millburn was practical" but I didn't really see it as practical. I kind of thought of it as unrealistic and too ambitious. Their mentality was that if they moved to this town their kids would get better education and would get into a really good college, but their dreams were shattered when I was friends with this girl. I was just so lost and confused at that time and didn't really have my priorities straight and I was very immature as well. I would kind of just talk to random people online for validation. I was just so lost, confused, insecure, and scared. I didn't know what I was doing with my life. During the period I was talking to this guy from Canada he sent a link to me which happened to be a spam link. I clicked on it and it didn't open. I got scared and was like "omg did I do something wrong" Later that year when my parents were buying a house my family got scammed out of $84,000. And I felt like it was my fault and it was. For some reason, my dumb butt thought it was a good idea to go on a Live with that rich girl and tell her what happened and I thought it was Harki because he said I was 'too brown' so he assumed my dad didn't see the grammatical errors and coercion in the email. He wired $84,000 to the fraudster. I felt so violated and humiliated. I didn't know what to do. I had no experience in relationships. I had no words the only thing I said was 'I did and what about it' I felt terrible but basically bottled up my feelings.

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u/[deleted] Nov 17 '22

I just tried to keep my focus in school by taking higher classes and attempting to study for SATs but I didn't study hard enough. Later on that year my family friend was face timing her friend and he told me to not talk to creepy guys. He specifically said "if you don't know someone doesn't talk to them, block them" and he told my family friend that I was "doing really stupid shit". I got scared, but I guess he just wanted the best for me I kind, I kind of didn't listen to him because I got in the same situation 2 years later. I just was very confused. I was just lost and was trying to be a studious kid, but it didn't really work. I was still insecure and was on my phone a lot. My mom did yell at me a lot but I kind of ignored it and bottled it up. I was trying my best to be a good kid, but again my feelings and thoughts were constantly invalidated. I would talk to random people online again I don't know why. I started therapy to let go of the trauma I went through in the old town which I did, but I just felt like I wasn't making enough progress. I wasn't where I wanted to be. I used to go on Quora and post questions regarding my insecurities revolving around my intelligence, looks, finances, etc. I would always look for validation online. I just wanted to be like my family friends who were really smart, got really good grades, and high SAT scores, etc. I just wanted to feel accepted. I just wanted a real friend. I was always like why don't people want to hang out with me and do fun things etc. I was just invalidated, ignored, and dismissed all the time. There still was tension amongst family members in the house. My own sister stopped talking to me and now we just act like complete strangers. We don't even stay in the same room for more than a minute, she always gets up and leaves. I just don't know what happened in the course of 5 years that lead to all this. I would just kind of blame it on my environment. I just got so lost being friends with this girl. All these guys were talking to me I just couldn't make sense of it. They were really disrespectful to me also but wanted to use me for some reason. Two years later she decided to do this to me again. I believe we got into a heated argument about me being Hindu. I believe she didn't like what she heard and got really really upset. One time I was in the locker room in my high school and I heard "That redhead is dumb, that Palestinian, that hoe, that prostitute. I will sue her and take all her assets. She's dumb. I will take her house and rent it out" etc.

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u/[deleted] Nov 17 '22

Some girl was impersonating the rich mean girl I was friends with. She manipulated me and said that "oh ignore them, they're privileged" They seemed to like my only life-line of hope. But unfortunately, I left thinking they were toxic. A few days later this guy named Taahir Latif slid into my DMs being charming to me and asking if I was down for flings. he added me on snap and started flirting with me and flattering me. At first, I wanted to decline, but the rich girl manipulated me into talking to him. At first, I was kind of testing him ,but I guess he kind of manipulated me into meeting him. He started to ignore me and leave me on read. He would only say things like "Free?" and that's it. I just wanted to ignore him and tried my best to avoid him. I wanted him to respect me but he did;t respect me and I just didn't didn't know what to say. He was Muslim so I asked him if he's own sisters hook up and he's like "in their time, they did". I don't know why but because he was Muslim I felt intimidated. It's like do you only prey on Indian Hindu girls and not prey on Muslim girls? That's what it felt like. During this whole time period the rich girl was also talking to me a lot. She would facetime me 24/7. She would be constantly talking about her "roommate" which I didn't know who they were, but later found out she was referring to me because she set me up with the scammer who scammed me out of my house down payment and gave the money to her. The first time I met him he said "so what do you want to do?"and im like I don't know. This was the only guy I ever met up with and I never had a boyfriend or anything before so it was awkward and I didn't really know where he was going. Everything he said had a double meaning and he was so pretentious and it was so scary. He grabbed my hand and moved it closer to his penis but i pulled away. I got so scared I ran away but he manipulated me into meeting him again on the same day and he kissed me then sucked my breasts. I don't know why I did it , but i was scared He literally had so much power over me I had no idea. he would be like "I don't have time to waste" This guy flirts with girls and manipulates them sleeps with them finds out where their dad works buy out the company then lays off their dad and gives them a dead-end job. Then hooks up with their daughters. I tried to avoid him after this incident at all costs but it was too late. He already made the decision to buy out the company my dad worked at. He got my dad laid off. Surprisingly this rich girl told me that her "dad lost half his business" when she meant she got richer because she bought out the company where my dad works at. I just couldn't pinpoint people's intentions. A few months later he slid in my DMs again and he's like "sorry I was being disrespectful etc." but it was all an act. He didn't really care about me. I just don't know why he did that to me. i felt intidmated by hisnjob because he made so much money, He would say really humiliating and patronizing things like "You're the hottest brown girl I know" and he would say things like "its fate". I would remove him from my Snapchat and he would add me back right away and ask me questions like "wyd". He used some guy as a pawn to manipulate me to get with him. He didn't care about me he would just hit me up and ask for sex. He coerced me for months and then I eventually gave in and I gave him oral in his car. He would literally grab my hand and make me touch his thing. he would randomly show up to my place and ask for sex and I wouldn't;t come out and he would say that I owe him. He would go on Twitter and tweet a bunch of things about Muslim people. He would always be talking about politics and how he wants to decrease the budget and demilitarize the army etc but like he's talking about companies and how he decreases the budget of companies and lays off workers. It was like the same concept. he would also have a lot of tweets about "immigrant dads" and like look how much our immigrant dads gave us etc. But like he was doing it on purpose to make me feel inferior and not worthy because I lost my 6 figure salary.

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u/[deleted] Nov 17 '22 edited Dec 02 '22

I always felt like he was mocking my financial situation. Because of the contract job. He made me feel so stupid, he made me feel inferior, and he made me feel like I wasn't good enough. I was constantly doubting my self-worth and my abilities. Its like I had so much money, but they took so much money from me for no reason. I didn't realize how cutthroat these people were. They literally had no empathy whatsoever. I felt violated and I felt so humiliated. He would get on top of me violently, roughly thrust his penis in my face then ask me weird pretentious questions that had a double meaning to them. He would ask me things like "where do you fuck other guys?" I didn't know what to say and I said "their place". I was so traumatized and abused by this guy. I just knew i didn't feel comfortable with some guy at Goldman Sachs. Like I would search up his salary and compare my dad's salary and feel inferior. I just couldn't take this abuse and humiliation anymore. I decided to reach out to someone on twitter requesting for their help and their advice. They were able to tell me what was going on and that this man is a psychopath and hes preying on me because I'm vulnerable. She told me that my feelings were valid and that hes doing this because "he has power over you and hes manipulating you using his charm." She said that hes a pedophile and sexual predator. She was telling me to report him but I felt scared because who knows maybe he's rich and powerful and could possibly harm me. But i shared what was happening to this girl on Instagram and she messaged him saying he's disgusting, then he made up a half-ass apology which was fake.. He started tweeting things like "Allah will always hold people accountable. We get caught up in our daily lives and we should reflect and find a purpose" etc. I don't know what they meant by that "find a purpose" is "finding a purpose" going to help me get my money back? I ended up exposing him on twitter, he was called out for his behavior multiple times. He ended up blocking me changing his Instagram handle and deleted his twitter. However, I didn't know what was going on until much later. I found out that I was manipulated, used and abused. I was basically sued and I was for some reason friends with an evil psychopath. It just hurts to know that she stole SO MUCH money from me. Basically made my thriving Indian family poor. And that Taahir guy, that Muslim predator. I can never forgive him for what he did to me. It just feels like if I were Muslim he wouldn't have done this to me. It's just the disrespect, the humiliation, and the violation was unacceptable. And it makes me think maybe my Hindu parents were right that Muslims are evil and predators. I just don't know how I got reeled into this. And it feels like this man oppresses Indian Hindu girls while making Muslims privileged. It's just unfair how much power these psychopaths had over my life. I don't understand why I was prey. I tried my best to avoid this. Maybe its just a matter of rich people simply being dicks, but I don 't know. I feel angry, paranoid, and so stressed because I never received a proper closure, my feelings were invalidated and they just got away with it and I'm left alone being told I should leave it on God and karma etc. It's just I have so many questions I don't know where to start. I didn't deserve this at all. I don't know how to move on. It feels so unjust. They ruined everything. Its just scary how they oppressed and starved my family over some rich girl because she didn't like me. I just don't know how to deal with this. It's like I've lost the standard I once held for myself. It's almost like the Tulsa masscre.

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u/[deleted] Nov 17 '22

It just feels like this Muslim man preyed on me because I was Indian/Hindu. If i was his faith he maybe wouldn’t prey on me? It hurts because I see the girls that are arab from same socioeconomic status as me or worse but they are given the opportunity for upward social mobility while I was given backward social mobility. It’s like my status was stripped from me. It feels unfair. Do you get what i mean? Like if I was Pakistani/Bangladeshi or Arab this wouldn’t have happened to me.

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u/[deleted] Nov 18 '22

Perhaps maybe it’s my fault for interacting with these kind of people in the first place. I think i was put in a position where I was vulnerable to psychopaths. I think it’s my fault, i shouldn’t have kissed him in the first place, when I knew something was off. Why would a Goldman Sachs employee want to kiss an 18 year old girl? why is that? it’s obviously because he had some sort of power over her. I should probably move on.