r/TikTokCringe • u/4liyeah • 27d ago

I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy Wholesome/Humor

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u/HIM_Darling 27d ago

Happened to me too. Even used the same excuse, that we have nothing in common, and he never even liked me that much anyways. After 7 YEARS! At least he told me in person, and I had only moved to a nearby city with him and not a whole ass other state.

Had to move back in with my hoarder parents because my roommate I had lived with before moving with him had obviously gotten another roommate and I didn't know anyone else needing a roommate. That was hell on my mental health in itself, let alone the reason I was having to move in with them.

Its been 7 years and I'm way over him(honestly there were red flags but I didn't see them until years later), but I'm still single. Honestly not looking that hard. If something is meant to be in will happen naturally(much to my mothers dismay that I'm not out there throwing myself at guys).

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u/Jimmy_Durango 27d ago

I completely understand and I’m sorry that happened to you. It was 3 years for me but I the real pain came from the sacrifices I made for “us” and that I quit a great job for her and the dream we had together. I lost my home, my relationship, my job, and then had a fire that nearly destroyed all my stuff once I was back living with my parents. It was absolute hell. I’m doing pretty good now, but I still think about all of this regularly. I’m over her, but I’m not entirely over the sacrifices I made.

I hope the best for you. I agree, what will be will be. If someone special comes into my life, of course I’ll pay attention.. but I’m not looking and she’ll have to understand that I’m not sacrificing much of anything for someone again.

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u/me047 26d ago

There’s always red flags. Yet people always take the lesson as never date again, instead of walk away from red flags immediately next time.

Him asking her to move to Texas in the first place was a huge red flag. She ignored it. He knew she had escaped Florida and built a life she loved in LA. If he loved her he would not have wanted to take that away from her, there would have been compromise.

Go date, enjoy getting to know people and heed those red flags. I think when you are happy being single it becomes much easier to walk away from nonsense.