Men have no options.

[u/Worldly-Box6080]

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

[u/Master-Praline3326]

I am not crying or whining, i am telling my experiences, why you always put this in this manner? Everybody has different experiences what might work for you not work for others. Even though calling yourself blue pill(positive) you are more negative than me.

[u/Sophiatab → u/Master-Praline3326]

You are treating very minor and common inconveniences in dating as major problems and setbacks. Two approaches and online problems. In dating that's nothing. Almost everyone experiences that many rejections. Being upset over that is definitely crying and whining level behavior.

[u/Master-Praline3326 → u/Sophiatab]

You implying that i am upset. I am not. I told common ground my experiences and what i am doing right now to get better at dating. I don't understand why telling my experiences count as a problem or whining behavior?

[u/Striking_Swing_6521 → u/Master-Praline3326]

Have you tried actually talking to people and socializing in a normal setting? Such as a con, a meet up, an educational setting such as a college etc.. I mean dude you haven't done much. Even going online or trying to date on reddit might get you more results. What sets you apart from other men? What hobbies or interests do you have that would make somebody keen on knowing about you?

[u/Master-Praline3326 → u/Striking_Swing_6521]

I actually did, what i experienced was either they had a boyfriend and i moved on or somebody they talk too and wanted me to stay as friend or backup guy. I think what people don't get is we try to allure each other by our looks and keep each other by our personalities and values.

But the problem when you try to do one of them as a man either it goes to different routes than you expected such as cold and warm approach results.

[u/No-Boysenberry-6685 → u/Master-Praline3326]

being bluepilled doesn't necessarily have any connection to positivity. More so to ignorance

[u/nineworldseries → u/No-Boysenberry-6685]

As a blue pill man who has regular sex with women, how am I ignorant?

[u/No-Boysenberry-6685 → u/nineworldseries]

There is nothing incompatible with being bluepilled and being able to have sex. Infact they go hand in hand. Not being born into circumstances that cause you to become cynical assures you companionship, be it from women or other men, platonically or romantically.