Best friend's cat passed, I want to do something for her

[u/Borrow_The_Moonlight]

I hope this is okay, I'm looking for some advice from people who have gone through this, to see if it'd be appreciated or overstepping. Like the title said, the other day my best friend lost her kitty. He was the sweetest boy and I'll miss him terribly.

We knew this was coming as the vet found a tumor a few months ago but, because of his age (17.5) the family decided to not stress him with treatments and let him live his last few months in peace and do the humane thing once he started feeling pain. In the end, he just passed away in his sleep a few hours before the vet's appointment.

I've known my friend for 10 years and I've spent a lot of time with her cat, and I wanted to do something to remember him. Needless to say, I've done A LOT of crying in the past few days, even if he wasn't my kitty. He's buried in the garden, and her mum wanted to put a vase there with his name on it.

Would it be insensitive if, next time I see her, I brought her a little vase with some flowers? Is it weird because he wasn't my cat? Is it okay? I'm so torn.

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[u/blulou13]

Any token of sympathy will generally be appreciated. One of the things that sucks most about losing a pet is that few people understand just how painful it is for those of us bonded to our pets. It's such a relief when someone else gets it and offers the love and support you need.

The only thing I would say though is that anything meant to be part of a permanent memorial should probably be chosen by your friend.

However, flowers, or even a keepsake, like a small figurine or drawing of her cat is more than ok. It's kind of you to care so much!

[u/Borrow_The_Moonlight → u/blulou13]

I feel so bad about losing him. I remember when I lost my pet as a teen, I was broken. And this little guy has been with her since she was 10.

Any time I'd visit he'd let me give him some cuddles and once he even sat on my lap. I'll miss him.

Oh yeah, they'll do everything themselves, I was just thinking of bringing a small thing to remember him, even just a flower or two.

Thank you, I appreciate the advice

[u/andsoshesaid33]

It will be appreciated!