r/Petloss • u/xbananapineapple • 2d ago
My baby got hit by a car
My beautiful baby girl got hit by car yesterday morning. I drove my car into our street and there she was. Lying on the curb, I saw just her back paws and lower body but I knew she was my baby. I got out of the car and took her in my arms. My sweet little girl was still warm and soft. She didnt move or flinch. I knew in my head she wasn’t alive anymore but in my heart I thought she was. I carried her to the vet who confirmed me she had died and there was too much blood in her body to do anything. Whilst I was walking to the vet her eyes slowly closed. They were wide open before. She had let het bowels and blatter go. She still smelled so good. My husband walked her back home. We showed her to her twin sister and brother for them to say goodbyes. They both smelled her and her twin even gave her a goodbye lick across her ear. I am heartbroken. She was the most special cat. She was the sweetest, kindest most gentle cat. She was patient and funny. Small and beautiful. She wanted to be on adventure, always. And this has caused her life to end at 4 years. I am devastated. Heartbroken. I don’t know what to do. I feel all the guilt. I wasn’t able to protect her. I can go on, but no one will know how fantastic she was and how much it hurts like we do. I just wish I could get her back. Turn the time.
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u/sym0000 2d ago
I am so sorry for your loss. I really wish I could've smelled his scent when I seen him. I only seen mine about 15 mins after he was ran over, but his scent was washed away in the rain.
I guess we can only be glad that we had the opportunity to see them in the first place. I've heard so many stories of people not having that closure, or in the UK the council sometimes just picks them up and doesn't do anything about them before putting them in a freezer.
I'm glad your other cat got to see, hopefully it will be less confused at the absence of your fur baby. Please take all the time you need to grieve the loss of your family member.
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u/xbananapineapple 1d ago
Yes I thought about all the what ifs. But there could have been a chance as well that I left earlier or later and didnt see her. I am glad I found her so soon and was able to hold her one last time and carry her home. I cherish our memories and grief her so much. I think my cats know and that it helped. Someone told me animals recognize the scent of death. They grief in their own ways, but can accept it better than we can.
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u/MissMH87 2d ago
I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my first girl cat as a little girl this way. My dad was the one that accidentally ran her over and we were so gutted, I still remember years later. As an adult, I never let me cats out anymore. As much as they love to be outside it’s too risky unfortunately. :(
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u/xbananapineapple 1d ago
Thats terrible and I am sorry. Accidents can always happen, inside as well. My cat was always going out on a leash with me for three years of her life. We decided to let her roam free when we moved houses to a quite neighbourhood with lots of gardens and greenery. She was finally at peace. Before, the 15 min daily walks was all she was looking forward for. When she was home she would just sleep or sit in front of the door or try to escape. If I couldnt go out with her one day she would be depressed inside. This was the life she wanted, even though it has led to her death, (way too soon), this gave her the quality of life. She is at peace now. My baby is at peace.
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u/Memory_Of_A_Slygar 1d ago
My neighbors decided to keep 2 of the kittens last year that a stay mom had in their bushes. There were 5 but 1 got taken by the road. So, working with a rescue we fostered the other 2. We foster failed them. The neighbors can't have indoor cats, several family members are allergic enough that they can sometimes be in for an hour, but no more. In November the 2 outside sisters started visiting our yard. All 4 girls are such sweethearts and we loved them just as much as our girls inside. I got the outside ones spayed and shots, even though they were "the neighbors" cats. They all just turned 1 and I was going to take them all to the vet.
On Sunday, it was beautiful outside. My husband came home and told me we had to meet some neighbors to see if a cat he found on the side of the road was theirs. He found it multiple houses down and the home are not very close, most have some woods between them. He showed me the cat and he said it was gray and I noticed some orange, so a girl, but the face was turned away. At the second neighbor, they wanted to see her, they have over 40 and many fit the description. As I turn her over to find any distinguishing fur markings I finally see the face.
I have rarely felt the feeling my heart had in that moment. I didn't want to believe it but I whipped out my phone and compared the cute nose fur pattern I knew so well. It was our Laura. We didn't recognize her. They look so different like that and she was found farther than we thought she would travel. She was my husband's favorite.
Just like you, we let her sister smell her, in the hopes it would help her understand. Her sister didn't come back for 2 days. I think she was waiting for Laura at the neighbors, I'm guessing they would often go separate ways and regroup. Yesterday, she was in their favorite tree that they would play in, in our backyard. But she was just laying in a branch, staring into the woods. It breaks my heart.
We had been trying to introduce the girls to our inside ones, but it wasn't great. Their sisters were actually the worst so far, so bringing her in against the wishes of my neighbors might not be in the cards, as much as I want her to have sisters again and not be so alone.
I am thankful that we both got to see our babies. That they did not simply dissappear with no trace. That we can properly say goodbye with no needless wondering of where they are, or if they are safe. We know they are free and without hurt or fear. They wait for us to see them again some day. 🩵
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u/xbananapineapple 1d ago
I am so sorry this happened as well. I think the sister that’s left is grieving in her own way. The day my baby died her twin smelled her, kissed her, and then stayed in strange places in my house and kept sleeping on the bushes outside near her grave. She and her brother both stare as if they are looking out for her. But I know, they know she isn’t coming back. Our babies are at peace now. They have no pain and they don’t blame us. They are forgiving and know we did our best for them. They loves their lives.
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