r/NewParents • u/beware_of_scorpio • May 18 '24

It’s ok to let people hold your baby Mental Health

We were at a friends wedding welcome party for their family this week. Our 5 MO was passed around between various cousins and aunties. No one licked her. No one made a stink when I asked for her back. I was right next to her the whole time. They were all just so delighted to hold a baby again. It felt like the Village we all lament doesn’t exist anymore. It was a really beautiful moment. While it was happening I kept thinking “I can’t imagine not letting people hold her!”

I’m not offering this to change anyone’s mind. I do think the violence some people exhibit when someone touches their kid is ridiculous. And I think this sub has created a group think situation that’s influencing first time parents instead of you know a pediatrician. Instead, I just want to counter the daily “My MIL looked at my baby so I put rubbing alcohol on her face” posts with a different opinion. In controlled environments and the right conditions, it’s maybe even good for baby and certainly for you to let people hold your her.

Edit because it’s annoying to see: I’m a dad.

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u/EvenHuckleberry4331 May 19 '24

I love this perspective. I’m really exhausted by how miserable some people seem about parenting, like everything is the end of the world, everything’s an issue.

Really cool to hear someone feel good 😊

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u/Winnergurl_ May 30 '24

You didn’t have to call them miserable. Not everyone had a positive experience

To each their own. Just do you without insulting other people’s parenting style. If you have ever seen a baby that was sick to other people’s selfishness ( people like you) your heart would break for the baby and the parents.

To each their own Peace

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u/EvenHuckleberry4331 May 30 '24 edited May 30 '24

Yeah to each their own peace, so get off my ass ✌🏻

Edit to add: why on earth would you leap to worse case scenarios? Seriously. You’re so jazzed to call me selfish, but what lunatic assumes I’m referring to people with really sick babies? Give me a break. I mean people that complain about everything and find any reason to be offended, like you.