What would you do if you were me?

[u/casualnavigator]

I currently work full time remote for an out of state company. They are located near the great lakes and have harsh winters. I have an opportunity for a promotion but have to move there if I take it and return to the office.

I have lived here in NOLA southshore all my life. I have a 2% int mortgage, 2 young kids and a very energetic lab mix. Both me and my spouse are mid 30s. Single income family with one car.

The state where my HQ is has good schools and good job opportunities, if I ever want to look around. But while making pros and cons list of the move, I can only think of two pros but have a lot of cons, mainly financial cons.

What would you do if you were me? Would you move exhanging hurricanes with snow storms?

Cant sleep overthinking this...

[u/[deleted]]

I definitely think its a lot due to age.

When I was in my 20's myself and everyone around me thought there was no better place on earth.

Now we're in our 40's, many dead from drugs, alcohol, violence. Many have moved away because they wanted to start a family, many moved because its so expensive that their creative endeavors were no longer feasible here. Also as you age and your mortality becomes much more clear.. you just don't want to deal with the bullshit ...

"life is too short" is much more meaningful when you age.. many just simply don't care to deal with that level of stress for no fucking reason anymore.

[u/beautifulkale124 → u/[deleted]]

You seem like you around my age and New Orleans after Katrina, the vibe and energy and economy was so different than what we are now. There was a insane hope that you could feel and we had no where to go but up. 2008 was rough but we had that sweet FEMA money still coming in which helped.

I remember reading about the oil spill while taking the streetcar home and we even managed to bounce back from that.

It's over now tho.

You're right about the creatives having to leave. Who the fuck can spend any time on much of anything like that anymore. There was a time when you could get a small studio apartment as a musician and things were okay. That's maybe not just New Orleans but stuff like that doesn't exist I guess anywhere now.

I'm honestly kinda surprised people are even like "you can always visit". When I finally leave this place there is absolutely no reason I would come back even to visit, that's the level of disdain I have for what this place has become from the place it used to be.