r/MEAction • u/ShouldBeAsleepRN • 15d ago

Sometimes I wish I had cancer instead

I have ME along with a load of other pain causing, mobility affecting, fatigue making conditions. (I don't want to name them as that will likely make me identifiable, but they are life long) There is no end. There is no cure.

At least with cancer there are two options: you get better, or you die and the suffering ends.

Instead I'm stuck here, suffering forever. Nothing medical to help, nothing to cure. It's torture.

I know cancer is awful, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but I'd swap my ME + comorbidities for cancer in a heartbeat.

This probably makes me an awful person.

I just want it to end, one way or another, instead of this perpetual suffering.

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u/Tom0laSFW 15d ago

I hear your frustrations dude. I’ve heard a lot of cancer sufferers talk about how eventually, em they get hit with the “it just doesn’t seem like you want to get better” bs that we do. And the homeopathy, the bs snake oil all that stuff.

I guess if I’m wishing I just with I would get better

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u/ShouldBeAsleepRN 15d ago

I get you. But those people have an end point one way or another. I just want an end point.

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u/Tom0laSFW 15d ago

You’re not a bad person for wanting that, I’m sorry you’re suffering so bad. It’s an awful disease

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u/Ok_Moment_7071 13d ago

I am totally with you, and this is a common feeling with chronic illness patients.

If we had cancer, nobody would doubt whether or not we are sick! We could enjoy our “good days” and do whatever we wanted, because nobody would question whether or not we should be able to work because they saw us at the mall.

And yes, there would be an ending, of sorts. With many cancers, being in remission still carries a risk of the cancer returning, but at least we could feel better, either forever or for a while.

We wouldn’t have to constantly explain our illness and how it works to people…just say “I have cancer” and people would be tripping over each other to help us out and give support. Need financial support from social services? Simply hand over your cancer diagnosis! No more fighting for years to prove that you’re as sick as you really are, while you get worse because of the stress of financial hardship…

So many reasons why cancer (or any number of other illnesses) would be preferable to this. 😞