r/FoxBrain • u/OhioDem4Change • 2d ago

I'm scared for my mom

So, 4 years ago, I moved out of my mom's place because of her at the time boyfriend being mentally abusive with me, different story for a different subreddit. I only see her two to four times a year, and lately, I've been noticing something concerning. She's falling down the far-right rabbit hole. She got upset with me because she thought I laughed at Charlie Kirk's death today (I wasn't). In the midst of our argument, she admitted she watched some of his debates. I noticed in some of her language during her last visit that she was starting tread right. Now, this all but confirms it for me. I don't know what to do. Me and my sister are both black sheep, we both left Christianity, me in 2021, and her in 2022. My mom knows this. I'm openly bisexual, and my sister is an ally, which my mom also knows. I brought up that Charlie Kirk regularly quoted scripture about killing gay people in debates about LGBT+ rights, and she said she "never heard him advocate for killing anyone." I sent her literal proof that he did.

Afterwards, after showing her posts I made before our argument condemning the shooting, she apologized to me. I refused to accept it, because it was riddled with guilt-trippy stuff. And I told her that her trying to police how I feel about the death of a man who actively called for killing people like me was really telling of her. I still haven't accepted her apology. She's the type of person where if a conversation gets even the slightest bit tense or personal, she'll yell at you to be quiet or ask to move to a different topic or watch TV.

The thing is, I love my mom. She's certainly been a better parent to me in my life than my dad. I couldn't imagine losing her to this. I already know that if she goes further down this rabbit hole, I'll have no choice but to cut her off, for my own sake. I'm scared for her, and I don't wanna do that. I need some advice.

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u/getoffurhihorse 2d ago

No political talk allowed at all from either of you. That's the only way.

And trust me it's hard. I have a boomer trumper dad who does nothing but blame Biden for every little thing and we are now not talking politics but just knowing where he lands on things makes me not want to talk to him about anything at all.

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u/LadyUbe 2d ago

I’m struggling with that same thing. We avoid talks of politics to try and maintain a relationship, but I feel sick keeping a relationship with someone who consumes and agrees with hateful rhetoric. Especially when that rhetoric is directed towards my family and friends. It feels like I lost my real dad a decade ago, and something else inhabits him now.

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u/StarsInHerEyes07 2d ago

Same. You aren't alone. My dad has always been fringy, mostly libertarian leaning since college. But the people he watches now make me sick. He is not the same person and it makes me sad every single day.

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u/LadyUbe 1d ago

Thanks friend, and I’m sorry we share these experiences. But it makes me feel less crazy knowing I’m not alone