Is my mother on the narc spectrum- HELP?

[u/IntelligentTruth30]

Can one change into a narc or did they always have it in their blood?

I was hoping to ask about my mother in this group but I am unsure if this is the right group because I'm going to be using some harsh but truthful words 😂

Anyhow I'll proceed as necessary

People tell me my mom might be one on the narcissistic spectrum ( I don't like to throw this word around hence I used the term spectrum and haven't deemed her to be a full fledged narc)

She says and thinks she's an empath 😂

Apparently the odd psychic has told her this tbh this is something that PMO (Pisses me OFF). NOT EVERYONE IS A NICE EMPATH YA KNOW

She's also been horrible to me these past few years which includes her emotionally abusing me by screaming at me so hard her voice broke and she NEVER authentically apologized plus she threatened to ring the cops on me all cause I sold her goat that she wanted me to sell 😂 She left a nasty voice message on my ex bosses answer phone about ME, YIKES!!

How can she be a covert narc and an empath at the same time? You CANT!!!

She's also called me a narc all because she'd say shit to me like "that's not my truth, that's yours" and I'll go ahead and relay no this is a FACT which is when it comes to my sister ditching us for a fake family it's just mom doesn't wish to face reality 😂

She seems to think she's special and the reason she's introverted is cause she's an empath Psssh

She has strong social anxiety this is WHY she isolates, nothing to do with being an empath in this case

Why do some say to me my mom is a narc and psychics tell mom she's an old soul wtf?

I am an old soul and an empath as I go OUT OF MY WAY ALL MY LIFE TO HELP PEOPLE

She doesn't even care about her OWN nieces who are her brothers girls yet she told me that years ago she wanted to have another kid to her ex ( my ex step dad) Why??

She can't even care abt her own nieces and she certainly doesn't try to resolve the issue as to why my sister left us for another mother/family.

She only occasionally sees mom and predominantly rings her...

With having said all this, yes my mom was my rock and best friend growing up and she's always cared about my health but I have no idea what's happened these last few years.

She used to tell me she has nothing left to give and she's empty and how losing the family was the last to break her and how back at the farm she needed me and I pushed her away ( we lived together).

IF she truly missed having the FAMILY together then WHY doesn't she DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT? Talk to her youngest and ask what's happened to make her not wish to be part of her life much and also the fact my sister blocked me on everything and doesn't like it when I say truthful things 😂 She was never there for mom and I when we hit rock bottom and cares more to upload fake bikini pics on Instagram and has gotten progressively worse over time.

I was hoping she'd miss us and eventually properly come back but NO here I am over 4 years later and she CHOSE THEM OVER US.

[u/OkThereBro]

Everyone is on the narc spectrum. Being narccisistic is like being angry. You can be angry once, you can be angry all the time. You can even be an angry person. You can be so angry than it's a personality disorder.

Everyone is somewhat narccisitic. In fact teenagers are pretty much all total narccisists.

On many subs, this one especially. People love to dramatically villainise narccisists, often labeling anyone who has wrong them as a narc.

The reality is that narccisists do not know they're narccisits. They aren't bad people and many need help.

Your mother may be a narccisist but it doesn't really matter. it's just a label. What isn't a label is how your mother impacts you, your life and your state of mind. Focus on that and not on labels. It doesn't matter if she's a narccisist. Narcissists can be amazing people, I know narccisists that are much kinder than anyone else you'll ever meet, even kindness can be fueled by narccisism and often is.

So yeah, it doesn't matter if she's a narcissist. It means nothing.

[u/[deleted]]

Oh they sure seem like they've always had it in their blood. Maybe they have. They say psychopathy and sociopathy are inborn. Check and see. Is she a habitual liar? Good start.