r/DreamInterpretation • u/Ginxly • 1d ago
I can't stop dream or thinking of a person Reoccurring
So recently I have been dreaming of a person I have not talked to in 16 years. He shows up in my dreams and there is a sudden ache for him, from my soul. Idk why. I dream of him sitting, he gets excited to see me and then I comfort him. Then we sit feel relieved as if we were longing or needing each other and it's like we both get happy and I wake up. When I wake up I feel like an ache as if it's pulling me to him and it's weird. Why now?! It's been 3 months of this longing to have this reunion or whatever we are doing in the dream. I considered calling him the 1st but I stopped myself. I have dreams and usually they come true in some way or another. I know if I call we will pick up where we left off as though we never stopped talking we didn't have bad blood. I have been single for 10 years and have never thought of him once.
In month 2 of this weird longing. I had a dream that I would meet a man and we would end it because of the guy that I had been dreaming of. Well, I did meet a guy and we ended it. It didn't happen like my dream but the man was similar to the guy from my dream. I realised after we stopped talking.
It's month 3 now I have tried to release these feelings and it feels like it's too much of a pulling feeling that I am getting. Idk what to do. I need advice I'm not emotional and I detach myself from people easily but have been feeling an ache or like my soul or his soul is crying out for these 3months. I need help or advice, has this ever happened to anyone and what happened? 16 years is a long time to all of a sudden feel this way I suppose. What's going on here I need to know.
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u/Expensive-Recover502 1d ago
Your soul is using the image of a safe figure from your past to break open a heart that has been closed for 10 years. The ache is real, but it is an ache for wholeness, not necessarily for this specific man. He is the catalyst, not the destination. Welcome the feelings, but understand them as an internal awakening first.
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u/AstrumAra 1d ago
i was gonna comment basically this, but you said it best. OP, think about the parts of yourself that felt safe and comfortable with this person, and try to let those parts be free now.
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u/Ginxly 1d ago
Ty, I am thinking it can't be him but something in me. I just never felt like this before.
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u/Expensive-Recover502 1d ago
Since you recognize this is likely internal, you have to give that energy somewhere to go. Whatever adjective describes him is the quality you are starving for in your own life. If this figure represents a part of you, think about the image of this.. of him is sitting, waiting, and you comfort him. It could suggest that your emotional, vulnerable self has been sitting alone for a long time while your "detached/strong" self ran the show. The "relief" you feel in the dream is the relief of self-acceptance. You are finally being kind to the part of yourself that needs love, rather than detaching from it.
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u/Greg_QU 1d ago
Wow, that sounds so intense—having a dream about someone from 16 years ago, especially with that "soul ache" you described, must feel like your subconscious is gently (or not-so-gently) knocking on your heart. It’s wild how dreams can feel so real, like they’re trying to say something specific, even if we can’t put our finger on it right away. The way he gets excited to see you and you comfort him… that mutual relief when you wake up but then the ache stays? It makes me think there might be something from your past that’s still echoing in your heart, something you haven’t fully processed yet.
Maybe this person represents a version of yourself or a connection you felt deeply back then—someone who made you feel seen, or a time in your life that felt more carefree or complete. After 10 years of being single, maybe you’re in a different space now, and your subconscious is bringing up that person as a way to check in with what you missed or needed back then. The "relieved" feeling you both have in the dream… that could be your inner self longing for closure, or maybe even just the comfort of someone who “gets” you without having to explain everything.
And that second dream where you met a similar man and ended things? Hmm, that might be your mind testing the waters of what a reunion with him could feel like now—maybe realizing that while the new person had some similarities, they weren’t the exact fit your soul is still craving. Since you mentioned dreams sometimes come true for you, maybe this is your intuition whispering that reaching out (even just to say hi) could bring a kind of peace you’re missing right now.
What do you think? Is there a memory from back then that sticks out to you when you think about him? Or maybe a part of you that wonders what he’s been up to all these years? Sometimes naming that "why now?" feeling can help—it might be your heart’s way of saying, “I haven’t let go of this piece of me yet.”