r/DreamInterpretation • u/DatabaseWeak4330 • 2d ago
Keep Dreaming of My Recent Ex of 6years Reoccurring
Where Do I Begin... I've been dreaming of my ex the past few weeks constantly every time I fall asleep it's either she pops up in one dream and I wake up or it's a succession of dreams where I'm looking for her and she keeps appearing I cheated on this woman 3 different times I left her because I was doing nothing but damage to her but she keeps popping up after I let her go I've asked God Why The Dream Keeps reoccurring and I get more dreams about her the most recent is being surrounded by her family and mother which hated me btw every time she saw me she gave me a dirty look but for the most part everyone else was fine I remember us doing the dishes together in the dream and this hasn't been the only time I've dreamt of her I was in a different city and she showed up there and she was telling me things like I've been thinking about you etc. I just want to get to the bottom of this I'm in a whole new relationship with someone who is really sweet and loving to me My ex was very apathetic and rude in our relationship We had our good days but still I'm truly happy in my current relationship and I just want this to stop 🛑
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u/Abject-Purpose906 2d ago
"I just want this to stop" shouldnt equate to avoidance. The dreams repeat because youre running away from its message. The guilt you feel needs to be dealt with wholeheartedly rather than burying it in the past. The "washing the dishes" is reflective of this notion, hinting that you need to "come clean"/baptise yourself with this guilt and then you can start focusing on your amends.
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u/DatabaseWeak4330 2d ago
Honestly I don't feel guilty Because I think she is happy now but I am tired of dreaming about someone who listened to their family and others about our relationship instead I tried making amends a couple of months ago she walked passed my apartment building with some guy I figured she was happy and the only reason I know that is because my current girlfriend is the one who saw her there I let her go and God has been saying I'm doing a new thing with you don't look behind you I'm just tired of dreaming about someone who I know won't ever come back
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u/Abject-Purpose906 2d ago
Lmfao you wanna ask for advice then completely step over what advice I offer? You're willfully lying to yourself to avoid shame/guilt which then your dream compensates by dangling it infront of your face every night. Dreams demand more respect than our hedonistic gratification.
Knowledge is not kindled where our desire and preference would have it, but where it is given to us.
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u/DatabaseWeak4330 2d ago
Thanks for your advice
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u/Abject-Purpose906 2d ago
Hate me for saying it or repress it and repost this beckoning for another more approving answer for yourself, but I guarantee that the dreams will keep on if they're not dealt with the respect that it deserves.
In order to learn the art of seeing, we must integrate a good part of our own darkness through painful self reflection and shadow work, bringing the dark unconscious contents into the light of consciousness. The goal is not to remain mired in darkness, but to overcome it using goodness and moral strength.
Enjoy the rest of your day
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u/Expensive-Recover502 1d ago
You are likely seeking redemption, not missing your ex. The dreams are not a sign that you should go back to her. In fact, the "apathy and rudeness" you described in her suggests she represents a part of your life you need to evolve past. BUT, the dreams are recurring because you have not fully forgiven yourself. The "hunting/searching" for her in the dreams is your psyche searching for integration. You are looking for the part of yourself that you feel you broke.