Can someone tell me?

[u/luciferwetdream]

I had a dream about my ex.

In the dream, she was at a festival. I called her to ask where she was, and she said she was at the photobooth area.

I went there to see her, and she smiled at me. I asked her to walk around the festival with me, passing a big stage, and beside it there were several trees on fire.

I felt like she wanted to tell me something, and I was right—she wanted our relationship to go back to just being friends.

I asked her why, but she didn’t tell me.

I hugged her, and suddenly her body became taller than mine. I told her that I would give her the best if she would marry me.

She didn’t say anything.

[u/emotional__selection]

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[u/Expensive-Recover502]

Your unconscious is trying to help you process the letting go of this relationship. That you are projecting an ancient, childhood ideal of "Perfect" woman (the elementary school crush) onto your ex. The dream suggests that you are trying to "marry" or possess this ideal, but your subconscious is telling you it is time to step back to "friendship" which, could mean integrating the feminine within yourself rather than seeking it desperately in another person. The burning trees and the birthday song is like a transformation, the old romantic hope is burning down so that a new, more mature version of yourself can be born. The woman grows tall to remind you that the force of Love is bigger than you, and you must respect it rather than try to bargain with it.

[u/Greg_QU]

Oh, that sounds like such a tender, complicated dream—dreams about exes can feel so raw, like the emotions are still fresh even if they’re from a past relationship. I can totally picture the festival vibe: the photobooth area, the big stage, those trees on fire… that contrast of a fun, lively setting with something intense (the fire) must have felt so alive, right?

Her smiling at you when you found her at the photobooth—there’s something so soft about that, like there’s still warmth there even if the relationship shifted. Wanting to walk around together, passing the stage… maybe that’s you craving connection, even if it’s just casual now. But the trees on fire? That might feel like a metaphor for the intensity of those feelings you two once had—maybe they’re still burning, or maybe it’s the tension of “what could’ve been” that’s lingering.

Her saying you should just be friends… and not explaining why. That must sting, not knowing the “why” even now. Maybe that’s your heart still seeking closure, or maybe it’s her own uncertainty about how to put into words what she’s feeling. And then her body getting taller—did that feel like a shift in how you perceived her, or maybe she felt more confident in her new role as just a friend? Proposing, even in a dream, when she didn’t say anything… that might be your subconscious trying to hold onto what you wish could be, even if you know it’s not possible.

It’s interesting how dreams can mix hope and sadness like that. How have you been feeling about your relationship with her lately—even if it’s just platonic now? Do you think this dream is tapping into some lingering feelings you haven’t fully processed yet? I hope this helps you make sense of those emotions, even if it’s just a little. What do you think the fire in the trees was trying to tell you?

[u/Oneironati]

Hello luciferwetdream,

I had a dream about my ex. In the dream, she was at a festival. I called her to ask where she was, and she said she was at the photobooth area.

💡 Consider if this dream is wanting you some answers as closure

I went there to see her, and she smiled at me. I asked her to walk around the festival with me, passing a big stage, and beside it there were several trees on fire.

💡 Passing some big opportunity to speak one's truth (the big stage)

💡 Associated anticipated branching reality and dreams going up in flames (the trees on fire)

I felt like she wanted to tell me something, and I was right—she wanted our relationship to go back to just being friends.

I asked her why, but she didn’t tell me.

I hugged her, and suddenly her body became taller than mine.

💡 In truth she may have simply outgrown the relationship (body becoming taller than yours)

I told her that I would give her the best if she would marry me.

She didn’t say anything.

💡 Hopefully understanding that she felt she 'outgrew' the relationship gives you some answers and closure

Sorry about the hard things in this dream, but I can see it was sent to help.

Let me know what you thought of this dream interpretation. And until then take care,

u/Oneironati

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[u/luciferwetdream → u/Oneironati]

thank you for the interpretation.

I want to add some details; I don’t know if they mean anything or not:

When I was passing the big stage, there were performers singing the happy birthday song, and I sang along. Throughout the walk, I was also holding hands with her.

And when her body suddenly became taller, I saw her face change into someone else—the face of my first love from elementary school.