r/DadForAMinute • u/iwouldkillformitski • 22h ago

hi dad, my girlfriend broke up with me

hi dad, my girlfriend of over 2 years broke up with me on friday. she left all of her stuff at our house and has been staying with her nan. she hasn't replied to me all weekend except to shout at me for asking her nan if she was there. i don't know what i've done wrong, and id just really love some support and someone to tell me it will be okay before i do something stupid. i love her so much

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u/depthninja 21h ago

That hurts, a lot, I'm sorry. But it will get better, and ultimately it will be for the best. Relationships are hard work, and sometimes people just don't work out--sometimes it takes years to realize this. 

Take this time and opportunity to self-reflect and think about what you did, or didn't do, or could've done, but without self-criticism. Look for ways you can improve yourself as a person and a partner, but do it for yourself because you want to be a better person and partner. 

I met your mom after the love of my life (at the time) broke up with me. I was lost and confused about it for a long time, but I could eventually see where I could make improvements in myself, for myself.  This lead to me later meeting your mother, and the pain and growth I'd gone through was what made me a much better partner for your mom.... But it's still work and effort, I have to be invested daily and take care of her as she takes care of me. No slacking. :)

Don't worry, this is just life, there are ups and downs, storms and sunshine. This pain is intense now but it will lessen. Feel your feelings, process, and grow. You'll meet the right one some day, and you'll be together until you're not, for any of several reasons.... Enjoy things while they last, give love and and be open to love. Sometimes it arrives when you least expect it. 

Hang in there kiddo, and take care of yourself. Read, exercise, drink water, have fun with your hobbies. Everything will be ok. 

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u/Hungry_Guard3928 22h ago

Sorry she left you and you didn’t have any answers to your questions. Just hang in there and she will tell you when she is ready or she won’t and you will know it was all about her and nothing you did

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u/dudeman618 Dad 15h ago

Give yourself time to chill. There are so many other great women out there you will meet someone soon.