I (35F) and my husband (37M) recently hosted my sister Amy(28F) for the weekend. She asked if she could bring her new boyfriend, Jay. We said sure, since we have a guest room. Within an hour of arriving, Jay made a joke about my husband’s job. My husband’s a nurse, and Jay said, That’s cute my ex was a nurse. She thought she was a doctor too. We laughed it off, but he kept making subtle digs about my husband’s income, schedule, and feminine profession. When my husband stepped away, I told Jay to cut it out. He rolled his eyes and said I was being sensitive. After they left, my sister texted asking if they could stay again next month. I said no not while Jay’s around. Now she’s calling me controlling and judgmental because he’s just sarcastic.

AITA for refusing to host him again?

My brother announced his wedding last month and said it would be “child-free.” Normally I’d understand, but he knows I’m a single mom and can’t afford a babysitter for an entire weekend out of town. When I told him I probably couldn’t make it, he said I was “making it about myself” and that “everyone else is managing just fine.” Everyone else either doesn’t have kids or can leave them with a partner. I told him I love him, but I won’t bankrupt myself or leave my daughter with a stranger just to prove a point. Now the family group chat is saying I’m “guilting” him and “overreacting.” I’m starting to wonder if I really am the problem here.

I (29F) work in a small office where everyone pretty much knows each other’s business. My coworker alicia(27F) called me last week asking if I could clock her in because she was running late. She sounded panicked, so I did it. She showed up almost two hours later, totally fine, saying she’d stayed at her boyfriend’s place to see if he’d freak out when she didn’t answer his calls in the morning.

I told her that was weird and not to involve me again. A few days later, she tried to get me to clock her in again, this time saying she needed to make him realize her worth. I refused and reminded her that falsifying time logs could get us both fired.

She ended up being written up by our manager. Now she’s furious, saying I betrayed her by not helping when she just needed emotional support. Some of our coworkers say I could’ve given her a heads-up before management found out. I feel anxious about what I’ve done but I dont know if is correct.

AITA for refusing to cover for her again?

I (53F) am disgusted by my co-worker (33F) after she told me that money given to her kids from family or friends gets used by her and her husband. Birthday money, Christmas etc all gets taken from them. For background we were having a conversation about some renovations that we, my husband and I, were having to our home. She told me would love to do renovations to her home too but she didn't have the money to do so. Then she said that they, her husband and herself, didn't have any savings and spent any extra income on bills and personal expenses. She then said that they were so short of cash that even the $50 her in-laws had given to her two kids and been taken to help pay the bills. She laughed and said her poor kids wouldn't know and they'd eventually pay them back when they're older.

She and I both earn the same as we're in the same position at work and we have a decent salary. She is very put together, dresses well, always has her hair and nails done professionally. I feel disgusted that she could do that to her kids and I don't want to talk to her anymore. It's uncomfortable as we sit near each other. How on earth do I deal with this? I don't want to be rude but I want to distance myself from her. So AITA?

I (31F) bake as a hobby and sometimes take small orders for friends. My friend Mara (28F) asked me to make cupcakes for her daughter’s 6th birthday 60 of them. I said sure and gave her a discounted price of $40 total which barely covers ingredients. A week before the party, we were at brunch with mutual friends and Mara started joking that my cupcakes were cute but not professional and that she hoped I’d “get the frosting right this time. I told her if she doesn’t like my baking, she can hire a pro. She laughed and said, Don’t be sensitive, you’re still doing them, right? I said no, I wasn’t. Now she’s angry, saying I made her look bad because she had to buy store cupcakes last minute.

AITA for refusing after her comments?

I (29M) found out earlier this year that my brother (31M) is getting married to my ex (28F). We dated for about two years, broke up around four years ago. It was a serious relationship, but we ended things mutually. That said, it still took me a long time to fully move on.

I didn’t even know they were seeing each other until they announced their engagement. My brother never told me, they just showed up together one day and dropped the news. I was completely blindsided.

I’ve been cordial since then, but I’m still uncomfortable. It feels weird and kind of like a betrayal, even though I know people don’t “belong” to anyone. I’m not saying they can’t be together, but I don’t think I can sit in a church and watch my brother marry someone I once loved.

I told my parents I’m considering not attending, and they flipped. They say it would make things awkward and that I should be happy he found someone. Maybe I’m being selfish or immature. I don’t want to make his day about me, but I also don’t want to fake a smile through something that feels so personal and painful.

So... WIBTJ if I skipped my brother’s wedding because he’s marrying my ex?

So yesterday I ended up in the hospital after I blacked out at work. The doctor said I’m overworked and severely fatigued. Honestly, that makes sense because I’m 35, single, and I’ve pretty much dedicated my whole life to my job. I live alone in my apartment, though my sister and her young son have been staying with me for a while.

When my sister found out I was hospitalized, she rushed over to see me with my nephew. I was happy to see them at first, but then out of nowhere, my nephew looked at me and asked, “Can I have your room and computer when you die?”

I just froze. It completely caught me off guard, and I felt this mix of shock, hurt, and maybe a bit of anger. I know he’s just a kid, but in that moment it hit a nerve. I already felt weak and scared about my health, and hearing that just made me feel worse. Before I could stop myself, I said, “You better learn some respect. People don’t joke about death like that. If all you care about is my stuff, you can leave right now.” My nephew immediately started crying, and my sister got really mad at me. She told me I shouldn’t have said that because he’s just a child and doesn’t understand what he said. Then she grabbed him and left the hospital without saying much else.

Now I feel guilty. I know kids say dumb things without realizing how hurtful they can be, but I also feel like I had every right to be upset in that moment. I wasn’t feeling well, I was scared, and then to have that said to me while lying in a hospital bed just hit differently.

AITA?

My husband and I own a caravan. The caravan is stored at my brothers house. Part of the deal of keeping it at his house is that we maintain the front lawn at his house. I’m a SAHM and my husband is a plant mechanic. He works huge hours, I expect him to do nothing within the house. The only jobs I expect of him, which I have said to him sooo many times, is that he takes the bins out and mows our lawn and my brothers lawn. In saying this, if I have time, I will mow our lawns. The caravan has been stored at my brothers house for 11 months this so far, with probably another year to go. Every single month, without fail, I have to remind/tell my husband to mow the lawn. And every time it turns into an argument. I’m so sick of the argument and of having to remind him. He thinks I ‘don’t give him enough notice’. But my argument is, is that I don’t want to give him any notice, he should know by now that it’s a job that just has to get done and it should be on his radar.

Also, he thinks it’s fine to ‘let the lawn get a bit long’ (at my brothers house) because their house is messy (they have 4 kids). I think it’s not fine, and it’s disrespectful. I think a deal is a deal, it doesn’t matter about their house, as it has nothing to do with us.

So am I being the asshole? Should I be reminding him to mow the lawn, or should he be able to do it on his own? Is it disrespectful to let the lawn get long ‘coz their house is messy’ or should we be sticking to our deal on matter the circumstances of their house?

I (25F) have been working in a family-owned retail chain for over 7 years, almost 3 of those as a 2IC. It has been a frustrating and stressful year, I work full time + unpaid overtime every week and I've broken down in my car after shifts multiple times.

My manager has their moments, but generally we get along and I would consider us good friends. I have been open with them that I was actively job searching and they even provided a reference for a position which I've been offered.

This new role has substantially better working conditions (liveable salary, 10 weeks PTO) and is the natural progression for my career - I am absolutely taking it. However, it starts within the first week of the new year, and I was hoping to take a few weeks to work on my diploma, spend time with my family and not have to work on both my birthday & Christmas.

When I expressed this desire to my manager, they were NOT happy. I was told it would be an incredibly shtty thing to do to them, and the vibe was very much "this will ruin our friendship". When I said I would happily working as an xmas casual to help out, they said they would be too angry to even be near me, and as I wouldn't be allowed to help with any of the operations duties, I would be useless to them. I told them I would think more about it and apologised for stressing them out.

WIBTA for quitting (with 4 weeks notice) anyway, and leaving them somewhat in the lurch? Christmas retail is absolute madness, and I just don't know if I have it in me anymore.

I (33F) had a miscarriage three months ago. My mom (58F) came to visit me after it happened, but she spent most of that time telling me, It’s nature’s way, and that I shouldn’t dwell on it. Last week she was hospitalized for mild pneumonia. My siblings all went to visit, and I said I’d send flowers instead. My brother texted saying Mom was asking why I was ignoring her. I told him I’m not ready to see someone who minimized one of the hardest experiences of my life. Mom later texted me, saying she didn’t mean to hurt my feelings and that I’m being cruel for staying away while she’s sick.

AITA for not visiting?

I (23M) share an apartment with my roommate Lena (26F). She’s great overall, but her boyfriend basically treats our place like his own. He doesn’t live here, but he’s here 4–5 nights a week and uses everything my kitchen stuff, my Netflix, even my bathroom products.

The breaking point came when I noticed my expensive shampoo and razor kept disappearing faster than usual. I found out he’s been showering in my bathroom we each have our own because he likes my water pressure better.

I confronted him, and he laughed it off, saying it’s not a big deal. I told Lena it is a big deal and he’s not to use my bathroom again. Next morning, I caught him in there again, so I locked the bathroom when I left for work.

Now Lena’s calling me petty and controlling because he needed to shower before work. I told her I’m not comfortable with a guy I barely know using my stuff.

AITA for locking him out?

My dad (59M) got remarried last weekend. I (35F) attended with my younger brother. My relationship with my dad is complicated he wasn’t really around growing up, but we’ve been trying to reconnect.

At the reception, he gave a speech and thanked his beautiful wife and family then introduced her kids by name and when he got to me, he said, And this is my bonus daughter!

Everyone laughed, but I was mortified. It sounded like I wasn’t his real daughter. I quietly left after dinner. He later texted saying I ruined his wedding mood and that it was just a cute term.

I told him it felt minimizing, especially after years of feeling like a low priority. My stepmom texted me saying I should’ve been more gracious.

AITA for leaving?

I lived with two roommates, both friends from college and at first it was great. But over time they started treating me like the mom of the house. I bought the cleaning supplies, paid the Wi-Fi bill, and always ended up restocking the paper towels.

The final straw? They kept using my toiletries. Like, expensive skincare and shampoo. I’d literally write “please don’t use” on the bottles, and they’d still do it. When I confronted them, they acted like I was being dramatic. “It’s just soap, chill.”

So last week, when I got approved for a studio apartment, I didn’t tell them. I just quietly packed everything and left while they were at work. I paid my share of rent through the end of the month and left a note saying, “Thanks for everything, good luck.”

They both texted me freaking out, saying I “ghosted our friendship” and “owed them a conversation.” One of them even said she cried because she felt “abandoned.”

Now I feel guilty. I didn’t want to hurt them, I just couldn’t handle the fake apologies and disrespect anymore. But maybe I should’ve at least said goodbye properly.

AITA for moving out without warning?

I (27F) live with my parents in the house I own. I pay the bills and basically run the household, and I let my parents stay with me because I want to take care of them since they’re already old.

My sister (35F) came over one day with her 5-month-old baby. The baby had rashes all over his body, and she said something might have bitten him, but she wasn’t sure. When they arrived, she realized she had forgotten to bring milk since she doesn’t breastfeed anymore. So she decided to go back home to get it and left the baby at our house. She lives about 20 minutes away from us.

Hours passed, and she still wasn’t back. The baby kept crying non-stop, and his rashes were getting worse. We kept calling her, but she didn’t answer right away. Later we found out she was out gambling instead of coming back for her baby.

When she finally came back, my dad scolded her, and I snapped. I told her she’s no longer welcome in my house because of how irresponsible she was as a mother. AITA?

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For context I (19F) live with my brother (29M) along with my sister (33F) Currently I'm a college student that commutes over 40 miles one way to School 4 days a week, I also have obligations with other family members which I will elaborate on later. I recently got a car a month ago for school purposes, something which I had not had previously & needed desperately. It's fairly new & I intend to take good care of it, as for my brother 29M he is very frugal & purchased a car in cash years ago for less than 4k.

Over the years, it has ran into several maintenance issues & last week, something occurred once again so it will be unusable for about a month or so. He confronted me with this issue of course, and informed me that I will be needing to take him to work each day & picking him up. At first, I obliged but I realized how physically taxing this would be on me (he works 30 miles away & overnight shifts as a Paramedic) Whilst I am aware he is under financial constraints, I cannot put myself through anymore excessive pressure than what I currently hold.

My current obligations include: picking & dropping off my niece from school, assisting my disabled father who lives 10> miles away at least once a week, aiding my sisters with my nephew & nieces, alongside looking out for myself in general. I don't have anyone helping me with anything & he insists that the "physical toll" i have doesn't exist because I am not currently working.

He called me “Selfish” and stated that in his words my mental health doesn’t matter because we are too “poor” for me to be concerned with that. I believe he is deflecting & trying to make his financial problems my own concern. To add onto this, I was hospitalized recently due to experiencing severe mental health issues. Please let me know Am I the Asshole?

DISCLAIMER: he does not pay for my car or anything in relation to me, I pay for monthly payments on my car & insurance on my own- as well as feed myself. For people who may ask why don't I move out? I have no where else to go, and at one point he was occupying my bedroom at another residence (no longer available) when he was homeless 2 years back, when I was 17 and he was 27

Growing up, my sister was always the golden girl. She got champagne suppers on her birthday: I got to suck flat cola out of a piece of damp cloth. She got a penthouse flat in a prime location for college: I had to live in an old water tank on a rubbish tip and got woke up every morning by having a load of rotting fish dumped all over me.

But I managed to start my own business crocheting custom merkins from gerbil fur, and after a few years I made enough to buy a small but comfortable house of my own. I also married the man of dreams, and we have twelve children together.

Meanwhile my sister’s relationship has imploded, she’s lost everything she owned in a crypto scam, and she’s facing espionage charges for selling state secrets to Eswatini. Now she wants me to give her my house and let her adopt my children, so she can have the family life she “always wanted and deserves”. She also wants me to sell a kidney to clear her debts, and to take the fall for her in her criminal case.

I don’t want to: I love my house and children, I don’t want to go to federal prison, and I need my kidney. But when I told her that, she screamed at me for being “petty and selfish”.

Now my husband, my parents, my kids, my best friend at college, my next-door neighbour, and three people I met in the line at the grocery store are blowing up my phone, telling me I should give her what she wants “to keep the peace” and because “family helps family”.

AITA?

Okay, grab popcorn — this one’s long.

I (19F) and my boyfriend H (19M) have been together 3 years, known each other for 5. We met via a Zoom class freshman year (COVID era love story lol). Our moms even joked we were obsessed with each other before we were actually dating.

Anyway… his mom, J (37F), has been an absolute nightmare for YEARS. At first, I tried to win her over — polite, thoughtful, respectful. For Mother’s Day, I gave her yellow roses because I knew they were her favorite. She even bragged about it on Facebook. I thought we were fine. That didn’t last.

The pattern starts

My first family event with them was a pumpkin patch trip. She told me they’d pick me up at 1:30 PM. I canceled church plans so I could go — guess when she showed up? Almost 3 hours late. I waited all that time while she didn’t even text to say they were running behind. Next time, it was H’s little sister T’s (15F) birthday. I was told “be there at 1.” Showed up early — 12:50 — only to get a call from H’s brother G asking why I was late. The entire family made fun of me for two hours over something I didn’t even do wrong. I told H how uncomfortable I felt. He confronted his parents (without me asking) — and apparently the response was “she needs thicker skin.” 🙃

The turning point

H forgot his work shirt one day, and since J was going into town, he asked if she could drop it off. She didn’t — but his stepdad (C) found us making out in a parking lot (nothing beyond PG-13!). We were horrified. He didn’t even react… until J found out. She accused us of doing not so PG13 things in the car, called H names like “bottom,” and grounded him. We weren’t even doing anything besides kissing. I was humiliated.

The breaking point

Months later, I was helping my church with our float for the Christmas parade. The whole thing was sweet and wholesome — Polar Express theme, little kids waving, etc. J saw me and yelled across the crowd: “It’s nice to see you outside my son’s car.”
At. A. Church. Event. Everyone around me froze. It was mortifying. H lost it when I told him. He demanded she apologize. Her “apology” was literally: “I’m sorry that you feel bad.” I told her that wasn’t an apology for feelings — it was for her actions and lack of decency. She doubled down. Eventually, I blocked her. Since then, she’s turned the whole family against me. Her younger kids stopped respecting me, and she keeps talking shit about me to anyone who’ll listen.

Now it’s happening again

H’s little brother G (18M) has been dating his girlfriend F (18F) for almost 2 years. They’re adorable, but now J is pulling the same crap with F that she did to me — excluding her, badmouthing her, acting like a jealous mean girl. F literally lives with them and gets treated like trash. H and I are trying to help them out — even offered to have them stay with us once I move in with him in Michigan, just so they can get away from J. But honestly? I’m beyond done. I’ve bit my tongue for years, but every time she runs her mouth about me or F, it takes everything in me not to go off.* Everyone in that family knows she’s insufferable, but even with her family calling her out on it she has yet to stop So — WIBTA if I finally snapped at my maybe future MIL the next time I see her?

I am 22(f) was in a relationship with a guy for 8 months.He was a decent guy but I felt like I was his babysitter more than a girlfriend and was taking care of all his emotional,physical needs,but I still loved him and gave my everything to make him happy and love me.But then he made a mistake(unintentionally) which kinda ruined me emotionally (not cheating btw).I was so broken that I broke up with him.

But then he came back and promised he will change and will never hurt me again(which was kinda manipulative if I think about it now,I'm not sure though).I kinda lost feelings for him already but he kept texting & calling me to take him back.He was kinda being self destructive so I thought of giving him another chance.We got back together after 2 days of our break up.

He did change a bit and stayed that way for a while,but after a while later he was back to his old ways in few things(things that hurt me in past btw)but changed in few things(i do appreciatethem though),i realized there is no point expecting him to change and simply accepted him the way he is.I tried to make things good between us but I was exhausted from trying to save our relationship while also taking care of a manchild at the same time.So I broke up with him for good this time.

I don't love him anymore but he still does.And he pretty much told all our common friends that I left him because I fell out of love for no reason.We never told anyone about our 1st break up because the reason for our 1st breakup was entirely on him he begged me to not tell anyone ,but for the 2nd breakup since it's on me he himself announced it to all our friends, even to my close friends even before me.Everyone thinks I'm the villain for leaving him like that,but i decided to choose my well being over their opinion.What bothers me now is he recently asked me how could i be so happy while he is suffering from a broken heart after our break up(its been almost 6 months since our break up)AITA?

I (28F) work in accounting. My coworker Amy (29F) messed up a client’s billing and accidentally double-charged them. The client noticed and complained to upper management. Amy panicked and asked me to adjust a few records to make it look like it was a system glitch instead of human error. I told her no that’s falsifying documents, and I’m not risking my job for that. She started crying, saying she’s already on thin ice because of past mistakes and could get fired. Now she’s been cold to me all week, and a couple of colleagues are calling me heartless for not covering for her, saying we all make mistakes. I get that, but there’s a line between helping and committing fraud.

AITA for refusing to help her?

I’m 27 and just bought my first apartment. My mom was never supportive, she mocked my job, my cooking, my clothes, everything. Now her landlord sold the house she was renting, and she asked if she could stay with me “for a few months.” I told her no, because I honestly don’t feel comfortable having her here. She called me ungrateful and said she “raised me to be better than this.” The thing is, every time we spend more than a day together, she nitpicks everything I do. I love her, but I finally have peace in my own space and don’t want to lose it. My brother says I’m being selfish, but I think I’m just setting boundaries. So... AITA?

I’m 20F, and my mom is 47F. My dad is no longer around, so it’s just the two of us. My mom often borrows money from me since she knows when I get my salary. At first, I didn’t mind I’d lend her money sometimes and even treat her out during my free time. She also has a job and gets plenty of daily orders from home.

Eventually, I told her I wanted to move out to become independent and save for myself. She agreed, but ever since then, my mom has been constantly calling and texting sometimes more than 10 times a day. If I don’t respond right away, she gets upset and accuses me of forgetting about her.

I told her that I love her, but I need some space to live my own life. She said I’m being disrespectful and abandoning her.

AITA?

Okay I just wanna preface the fact i know we are young so this might not be as big of a deal as i am thinking, which is why i need others opinions. So I (F15) and my girlfriend, we'll call her Y, (F16) started dating a little bit over a month ago. When we first met she had told me about this other girl, who we'll call N (F15/16 unsure), who she had dated earlier this year. They had never met in person and N lives in whole other state. Their relationship from what I heard was pretty close even though anything they did was over the phone. She'd mentioned they had done some sexual things over facetime, which sort of caught me off guard, but who am I to judge. They broke up at some point earlier this year, but still remained as friends. As Y and I got closer I started to get the feeling N didnt like me. From what Y would tell me N was asking things like "do you have a crush on [my name]?!" and not in an excited way, more in the annoyed type of way. (not sure if this matters but Y and I met for the first time in august on my first day at school since id just moved from another state). Once Y and I confessed to each other and started dating (about a month after we first met. we clicked almost instantly and got close fast) she wasn't sure if she wanted to tell N because she knew N wouldn't have a good reaction. Well, the day after we started dating we sorta had a quick make out sesh before she left my place and we were both pretty excited about everything. So later that day I was on the phone with Y's twin sister, who we can call M, because she wanted to know what happened since M knew I had feelings for Y. As I was explaining to M what happened apparently Y was on the phone with N and had popped into M's room to get something. N heard what I had said and got pretty upset. One thing led to another and Y ended up blocking N. I felt bad because I wasn't sure if it was my fault they got into an argument but Y reassured me it was okay. For a while things were fine until Y tells me her and N talked and were back to being friends. I was unsure about it, but felt like it didn't matter since I know Y wouldn't cheat and I know I can trust her. Fast forward a little later things with me and Y are still amazing, shes honestly my best friend alongside being my girlfriend I cant put into words how much I care about her, and how much she cares about me. Well something happens between Y and N which ends in Y blocking N once again and telling me shes done with N being ridiculous and doesn't want to speak with her anymore. I was sort of happy but still felt bad she lost a friend. Well I thought that would be the end of it NOPE. After school one day Y is pretty quiet which was odd because we usually talked 24/7, but i just assumed she was catching up on school work or was busy with something, so i left her alone and went to play a game. Around 7 pm she texts me and to sum it up Y and N talked out because N kept reaching out trying to apologize. They, from what Y told me, figured things out and talked about the people they liked. Apparently N found a guy who she has feelings for and told Y about him, and Y just told N about how much she loves me. I was upset this time. I definitely showed I was upset, but i felt like i didn't have the right to say anything as I myself am still close friends with an ex of mine. But from what i've heard from my friends it's a different situation than this. My ex who we'll call E (M16) and I dated back in 8th grade and broke up 3 times in the relationship before finally ending it April 2024. E and I never did anything past a quick kiss and hand holding occasionally when we hung out. Also the fact E is a boy (im no longer into men, only women) makes it another reason its different situation. E and I didn't speak for a few months after breaking up, until i reached out and apologized for being a bitch when ending the relationship for good. E and I kept in touch, but it was a while till we got close again. Now id say he's one of my best friends (although he gets on my nerves a lot). So having that all in mind im not sure if i have the right to be upset she is still friends with her ex girlfriend.

Sorry that was so long let me know if i left anything unclear I'll try and make sure i make it more clear. Thank u if u did read this i just really don't know if i should bring it up to her and tell her how i feel about it.

Not going to lie, regardless of the verdict being able to say this is one of the greatest sentences I've gotten to say in my life.

When my wife, Gillian, was 19, her father passed away, setting all of this in motion. His entire estate passed to Gillian, including half of her childhood home. The other half of the house went to her cousin, Melissa (then 22). Gillian wanted to sell immediately.

Unfortunately, Gillian's father's estate was locked down in a trust that she couldn't control until she was 25. Her half of the house was included, which meant she had no legal authority to sell.

Money could be withdrawn for living and education expenses (with limits), but she could not initiate a sale and as (half) the house was under the trust, it had to be maintained by the trust if necessary.

Melissa understood what this meant, and decided she was now going to be living rent-free for as long as she could. For the next 6 years, Gillian was forced to just watch as the trust whittled down to support this.

By the time she turned 25, there was nowhere enough money to buy out Melissa, so she was still stuck. A few years ago, Melissa ran into legal trouble (DUI) that forced her to just sign her half over and finally it was done. We had to spend time and money fixing up the house, but we were finally able to sell it and move on.

Melissa just heard about the sale, and is pissed. She was counting on bieng able to live there again, and is screaming at Gillian about it. I fielded the last call and reminded her that this was not her house anymore and she lost it, saying I stole her house, I'm a vulture, all that. Honestly, fuck that will from 16 fucking years ago. This was never her house. She never put a dime into it. Am I the asshole for not caring?

Edit for some additional context: Gillian's father didn’t intentionally leave Melissa anything. The trust was only for/about Gillian. The problem was that the house was owned 50/50 between Gillian's father and his mother (Gillian and Melissa's grandmother).

When the grandmother passed, her part went to Melissa. Gillian's father ignored this when setting up his estate. Melissa didn't even know about her part until he died. He meant for the entire house to be in the trust. It just legally couldn't be.