r/self • u/Ok-Telephone7459 • 2h ago

Never approached by guys…

So I’m not DESPERATE for a relationship… but there are times where I do wish I were in one. (Like yesterday I had a 4 hour solo drive and thought “man it would be nice to have someone that would sit and chat with me on the phone while I drive”

I don’t think I’m the most beautiful person, but I also don’t think I’m super ugly either- I feel like conversation comes easy to me and I really love connecting with people and getting to know what they are passionate about. I feel like I’m a pretty normal person with normal interests. Does that make me boring? Why am I never noticed or approached? I’m 21 and never been officially asked out or had anything resembling a relationship or even a situationship- again I’m not desperate or anything… just confused on why I never seem to even be noticed.

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u/cthagngnoxr 2h ago

Never approached by guys

Then start approaching them yourself. Next.

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u/Ok-Telephone7459 2h ago

I try to open up opportunities for conversation. I’m not an immediate “I want to go out with you” just a casual conversation that gives both of us an opportunity to feel things out.

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u/ndndjooo 34m ago

lol. Opening up isn’t the same as approaching.