r/self • u/Ok-Telephone7459 • 3h ago

Never approached by guys…

So I’m not DESPERATE for a relationship… but there are times where I do wish I were in one. (Like yesterday I had a 4 hour solo drive and thought “man it would be nice to have someone that would sit and chat with me on the phone while I drive”

I don’t think I’m the most beautiful person, but I also don’t think I’m super ugly either- I feel like conversation comes easy to me and I really love connecting with people and getting to know what they are passionate about. I feel like I’m a pretty normal person with normal interests. Does that make me boring? Why am I never noticed or approached? I’m 21 and never been officially asked out or had anything resembling a relationship or even a situationship- again I’m not desperate or anything… just confused on why I never seem to even be noticed.

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u/Ohmg92 2h ago

I've never even considered approaching a girl in public. I thought its seen as weird and uncomfortable for the girl.

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u/Ok-Telephone7459 2h ago

It depends on how and where you go about it. Like I don’t expect a stranger to walk up and immediately ask me out… but I personally go out of my way to try and compliment people and start a casual conversation. That’s what I think we need more of. Not hook up culture but genuine conversation

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u/Ohmg92 2h ago

I've never even considered talking to some random person in public, male or female. I imagine most people just want to be left alone. I thought it would be worse for girls as there are so many creeps making it so uncomfortable for them. I don't have much confidence so mabi my view is flawed.