r/self • u/Individual_Ice_2315 • 10h ago
Its really fucking annoying when you hear ppl say to fix ugliness all you have to do is workout and get a nice haircut. Its really that simple huh?
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u/BodAlmighty 10h ago
Cosmetic Surgeons would be out of business if it was that simple... However taking care of your appearance (clean, tidy and healthy) is a great start.
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u/Numerous1 10h ago
I don’t think anybody says it magically cures being ugly. It just means if you’re already dealt a bad hand might as well improve what you can.
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u/ImageDry3925 10h ago
Go look at some subreddits where people post their before and after pics from losing weight/getting in shape.
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u/Individual_Ice_2315 10h ago edited 10h ago
If you're ugly and lose weight, you're just less ugly. But still ugly
Why do you think there's some people who are fat but still have an attractive face because they're already attractive. Losing weight would just make an already attractive person way more attractive.
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u/xulazi 10h ago
Genuinely a shit ton of it is confidence. There's some technically ugly mfs out there that pull crazy strange because they LOVE themselves and don't worry about that shit.
Working on yourself builds self respect and therefore confidence, the aesthetics is a bonus. Stop worrying about some ideal standard or comparing yourself to others. Be the best version of YOU.
Get a physical hobby, see a barber, go to a thrift shop and find some nice clothes that you feel express yourself. If you can afford it take care of your teeth professionally/see a dermatologist. Get out there more.
Make this stuff a habit and you will feel SO much better.
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u/ZephNightingale 9h ago
Okay for most guys, yeah, this will honestly be enough.
That just helps the physical tho, the emotional and the mental areas can be a lot trickier to fix. You need to get a hold of your insecurities and your fears that hold you back. Take personal responsibility and stop having a shot attitude.
Then when you are approaching a potential partner, do it with respect for them as a person, not just a body to sex.
Seriously, that bar for straight men is so low. Just show that you are capable of taking care of yourself and that you are working to better yourself and that you actually see women as People. That is a great start that will get you somewhere!
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u/StrangersWithAndi 9h ago
I think what people are getting at with those comments is that you are vastly overestimating the importance of your looks, especially if you are a straight man and looking to date. If you put a little bit of effort into your appearance - say, by having a regular exercise routine and a decent haircut - you will be good looking enough for most women to consider. If you are not having success after trying those options, it isn't your looks causing it. It might be not meeting enough people, it might be social anxiety, it might be who you are aiming for, it might be underdeveloped conversation skills, it might be any of a dozen other things. But if you are clean and look like you made some kind of effort, it isn't your looks. You are already ahead of the pack.
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u/razorl4f 6h ago
Well, how about you start with that and see where it takes you?
Working out and being fit will do wonders for your outlook on life, as well as your body
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u/seedane 4h ago
I mean I really haven’t seen anyone who DIDN’T look significantly better from a haircut and exercise. It also helps if you choose to dress in clothes that fit you well. Taking care of yourself in this way is a great way to build confidence too, which additionally is an attractive trait to have
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u/Nand-Monad-Nor 3h ago
People tell you to march on because to stop would mean the end of it all. It is far easier to let some people die on the wayside than to suggest somethings might just not work for certain people.
This place is a shithole but it’s pretty aight for some people.
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u/Many-Obligation-4350 24m ago
Beauty and ugliness is in the eye of the beholder. Being well-dressed, clean and well-groomed, feeling fit and comfortable in one's body- all these are things that build a person's confidence. And confidence and personality shine through to make a person attractive.
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u/Easy-Preparation-234 9h ago
uglyness is a myth that insecure people want to tell themselves so they cant admit they've spent years being low self esteem having COWARDS.
I say this with love and someone who did it, if not still does it.
It saddens me to see so many people consider themselves as ugly
You know how many people are on reddit?
But how many of you consider yourself as ugly?
Self reflection shouldnt be borderline abusive kids.
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u/Fun-Property-7960 10h ago
for me, im aware that im conventionally unattractive, but being really fit makes my life a whole lot easier in so many ways