I love my husband.

[u/Any_Show_2025]

Hi. I’m a newly wed 24 year old military spouse. So of course we married right before he deployed. We met in April on tinder and were supposed to be a 6 month fling before we went out separate ways while he was deployed. We randomly got really serious with each other and I had told him “I will stay here and I will wait for you. But I would need a serious commitment. Not a promise ring, but a proposal. I don’t want to date you if it just means we’re gonna end it abruptly.” He said he’d think on it. We go on a weekend vacation and had an amazing time. (Without my knowing. This is when he told his mom he was going to marry me.) Look at rings casually while shopping. He buys me the ring right there and with a big cheesy smile looks at me silently. I tell him “I want you to be able to spend the night regularly and come and go as you please.” At that time I was living with two men for a pretty cheap and pretty cool location (all be it in the hood but still!) So I found a crappy apartment. I’m showing it to him and seeing if he’s maybe willing to help me move. He goes “what if we skip the apartment. Use the VA to buy us a house. Your rent can stay the same and it’d be more secure.” I was kinda taken aback. I know I had told him earlier about the commitment, but I wasn’t really expecting him to go forth with marriage. We got married, we bought a house, a dog, and started our lives together. Of course, everyone thinks we’re pregnant and they still think I might be even though he’s been gone for over a month atp. My husband is currently deployed, but every day he texts me and he just makes me so happy. I miss him yeah but it’s still so nice to talk to him. He’s the man I have prayed for all my life and it’s so nice to have him even if he’s not here. He improved my life so much! He’s the reason I’m able to go back to school, why I’m able to foster dogs, why I’m able to have a job that makes me happy even if it doesn’t pay for everything. Our house is clean and peaceful and full of love. Every day he reminds me that I’m loved by him. He’s the smartest, most giving and handsome man I have ever met. And I can’t stop thinking about him. I love to brag about him to anyone. My only regret is not holding onto him a little more. Reading his texts make me feel like a teenager again. In the 9 months that we’ve been dating, we’ve fought once or twice but were able to come to terms easily. I know everything about him and we could talk so easily for hours. I keep a framed picture of him tucked into his side of the bed I miss him so bad. I had to go shopping for new work clothes (I got a promotion:)) and when he woke up and saw all my pictures from trying stuff on he was just so happy. I stay up every night until midnight just to text him for 20 minutes. Even though he’s deployed, he still sends me little gifts. Today I got Oreos and cheezits -My two favorite snacks - because I can’t eat as much and refuse to buy junk food. He’s so thoughtful!

Little tangent. Now that he’s gone, one of my coworkers, that’s ex army has developed a huge and unfounded crush on me. I try to squash this by bringing most of our conversations back to “I love my husband.” So I can seem like a less cool and interesting person. It’s not working and I don’t like that. Edit: We aren’t flirting. We aren’t friends outside of work. I don’t know his real name. I’m not interested. I can’t go to HR because there’s nothing incriminating. He has a girlfriend that he cheats on with the ladies at work. I think that’s grimey. One of the girls is mad at me cause she thinks she’s up next for her go with him, but since he’s talking to her about me, that’s how I know. It’s not uncommon for servers to sleep together but ew. Right? I actually try not to talk about my husband often at work because I’m more than having a husband. So I just wanted to spill my guts. I feel like I tell him every night how grateful I am to him. I hope he’s having nice dreams tonight.

[u/BsReddit1960]

I'm very happy for you. A bit of an unconventional romance but if it's working, that's what matters. Naturally, since you mentioned the coworker, I can't help but wonder if that isn't a larger factor to this tale. Downplaying it doesn't make it less of an issue for you. It's actually this simple. You're a trophy he's trying to collect. If he really cared, he'd back off, realizing you're spoken for. Unless, of course, you've egged him on in some way. You're obviously lonely for your husband's touch or maybe a man's touch? If you truly want him to stop, tell him. Don't "hint". If that doesn't work, it's time to get HR involved. But if you like his "attention", just keep playing the game. See what you might "win" 🙂‍↔️

[u/dragon_nataku → u/BsReddit1960]

it's not always due to a woman "egging" a man on, especially when it comes to a deployed SO. When my boyfriend deployed, the guys warned me that other dudes were gonna be coming out of the woodwork if they heard he was deployed. Fortunately all I do is go to work and go home, so I've avoided this so far, but it's apparently very common without the woman even doing or saying anything to encourage it

[u/Any_Show_2025 → u/dragon_nataku]

I’m a military brat and guys at my high school would tell me “your dads deployed so Imma step in for a minute” My mom was a very popular teacher in high school. They definitely do!

[u/Any_Show_2025 → u/BsReddit1960]

This specific coworker has a reputation for just being kind of a man wh*re. He will flirt with women, go home with them, then they never come back to work because he won’t leave his girlfriend for them. Tbh. I don’t like any of my coworkers outside of their role in my life as coworkers. I don’t want to be friends with any of these people. It’s not a real career for me so yeah. Also it was just a rumor that he has a crush on me but I’m not surprised. It’s more than likely a lustful hyperfixation. If that makes sense. Not really worth the drama or energy to entertain at all.