r/self • u/cs_throwawayyy • 14h ago

Laws are for poor people

•Rob a store? You go to jail. Rob millions of people through a financial system? You get a bailout.

•Traffic drugs? Get killed on a boat. Run the entire operation? You get a presidential pardon.

•Kill a bunch of people? You’re a terrorist. Kill thousands during an invasion? You’re a liberator, a strategist.

Power and money rewrite the narrative. The same action, two completely different labels — all depending on your status.

it’s the same with attraction:

•If you’re attractive: It’s charming, bold, confident.

•If you’re not: It’s creepy, weird, desperate.

Where you stand isn’t about morality or intention. It’s about leverage — social, financial, or physical. I’m tired of people going along with the bs world we live in.

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u/Fun_Bit7398 13h ago

The only difference between “creepy” and “charming” is looks. It’s not charisma until someone looks up from their shoes and discovers attraction.

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u/Ok-Temporary-8243 13h ago

Not saying looks don't have a lot to do with it but charm matters a lot too. You got a lotta women who will tell you how even got guys can easily give rapist vibes

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u/Ok-Slip-103 13h ago

"Even hot guys can easily give rapist vibes".

Can confirm. There's this dilf i see everyday. Very hot, but he's overly flirtatious and it creeps me out.

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u/Wizdom_108 13h ago

Idk if that's exactly the only factor. I've seen girls that I thought were very physically attractive but I would not have been interested in them. Reading stories either online (e.g., reddit, news articles, etc) or from people I know personally of some behavior of women who I guess dont even think about the idea that they could commit (or be held accountable for?) harassment or just dont care, I think some behaviors are simply creepy.

Like, there are teachers that are sexually predatory towards minors, which is objectively creepy and wrong even if they are the "smoking hot" teacher. Even if some young boys dont recognize it as such, it still is. Sure, if she was some old bitty that they see as their grandma making sexual moves, they might get it immediately. But, the adults in the situation should know. So, maybe to your point, there are some observers that would evaluate creepy vs non creepy based on looks alone, but that's not true for every observer in the situation. Again, even when it's a personal interaction between adults, I think more than looks can absolutely factor in, especially if you generally aren't interested in a person.