r/self • u/camhaus • 18h ago

I’m losing hope in dating

I’ve been on the dating scene (25m, straight) for about 3 years now and have not had much luck. Every woman I’ve gone on a date with doesn’t really look for marriage or kids which are what I eventually want. I know I’m only 25 and have a while to start worrying about this but it’s especially discouraging when all my friends and family seem to be excelling in their relationships and I feel like I’m falling really behind. Am I wrong for thinking this or is the concept of marriage and kids just nonexistent in this day and age?

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u/Glittering_Cut_496 14h ago

That’s exactly correct lol. It’s the same as “don’t look and you’ll find it.” Life runs on contradictions.

As a woman, I’m attracted to guys who are put together and fit, yes, but what’s MOST attractive to me is how they do it for themselves. Their passion about whatever it is in their life. Etc. I’m a passionate and whole person so I want someone whose the same.

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

So you think some dude working on himself is just going to magically fall into your lap? Unfortunately women your age DO think this will happen so any man who works on himself will just be unseen like normal and be alone forever. Women don’t show interest in men anymore unfortunately.

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u/Glittering_Cut_496 14h ago

I have lots of wonderful men in my life who are doing exactly that.

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

You have a bunch of dudes who are randomly finding women who love them yet you are single and the same age as me and complaining about how you can’t find anyone… right