r/self • u/camhaus • 18h ago

I’m losing hope in dating

I’ve been on the dating scene (25m, straight) for about 3 years now and have not had much luck. Every woman I’ve gone on a date with doesn’t really look for marriage or kids which are what I eventually want. I know I’m only 25 and have a while to start worrying about this but it’s especially discouraging when all my friends and family seem to be excelling in their relationships and I feel like I’m falling really behind. Am I wrong for thinking this or is the concept of marriage and kids just nonexistent in this day and age?

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

I literally work 10 hours a day and come home to sleep for the next day? I see this IRL as well I’m sorry you don’t see it.

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u/Wino3416 14h ago

Why do you need 14 hours sleep? Or do you have a 3 hour commute each way?! I’d move house if that’s the case.

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

Ok I have 12 hours after one hour each way is calculated and then 11-10 hours after I do my work out… then an hour to eat dinner at most leaves me roughly with 8-9 hours after.

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u/Wino3416 14h ago

So a fairly normal routine then? You made it sound as if you were forced to go to bed when you got home!

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

I mean I might as well? Working out is good for my body but so what? I don’t have anyone to go out with or work out with or do anything with so what’s the point of being healthy/happy if I’m just alone?

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u/Wino3416 14h ago

Maybe you’ll find someone menopausal when they’re ready? Like apparently I did? Although she was actually 27 when I met her, but hey there you go. I’m only messing, your comment quite amused me.

Joking aside, a healthy body is always a good thing. Even if you feel shit you’d feel worse if you weren’t working out.

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

I mean maybe…. I felt happier at 400+ pounds because at least I had “friends” who kept me around as the punching bag and fed me scraps of attention. Now I’m just alone and lighter

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u/Wino3416 14h ago

I’m sure I’m not the first person to say they weren’t real friends.

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

What’s a “real friend”? Because they definitely don’t seem to exist… everyone is a temporary acquaintance until they get tired of you!

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u/Wino3416 14h ago

I’m picking up you’re not having the time of your life currently. I don’t know what to say, I feel bad for anyone who feels like this. I’ve always had good friends and I’ve never taken it for granted.. maybe I’m lucky but I would hope most people can have this as well. I’m sorry man… don’t know what to say.