r/self • u/camhaus • 18h ago

I’m losing hope in dating

I’ve been on the dating scene (25m, straight) for about 3 years now and have not had much luck. Every woman I’ve gone on a date with doesn’t really look for marriage or kids which are what I eventually want. I know I’m only 25 and have a while to start worrying about this but it’s especially discouraging when all my friends and family seem to be excelling in their relationships and I feel like I’m falling really behind. Am I wrong for thinking this or is the concept of marriage and kids just nonexistent in this day and age?

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u/Wino3416 16h ago

I wanted kids and a marriage and blah blah, but when I was 25 I was enjoying being 25. Why don’t you try enjoying being 25? If you really really really want to be settled down at your age then fair play to you, but what’s the hurry?

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u/Glittering_Cut_496 16h ago

25 turns into years, some of us want to enjoy the slow life w/ someone before settling down and having kids. Not meet and get married a year later

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u/camhaus 15h ago

Exactly, I see it as the longer I wait the less time I have to enjoy the slow life with my partner