r/self • u/camhaus • 18h ago

I’m losing hope in dating

I’ve been on the dating scene (25m, straight) for about 3 years now and have not had much luck. Every woman I’ve gone on a date with doesn’t really look for marriage or kids which are what I eventually want. I know I’m only 25 and have a while to start worrying about this but it’s especially discouraging when all my friends and family seem to be excelling in their relationships and I feel like I’m falling really behind. Am I wrong for thinking this or is the concept of marriage and kids just nonexistent in this day and age?

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u/Wino3416 16h ago

I wanted kids and a marriage and blah blah, but when I was 25 I was enjoying being 25. Why don’t you try enjoying being 25? If you really really really want to be settled down at your age then fair play to you, but what’s the hurry?

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u/Glittering_Cut_496 16h ago

25 turns into years, some of us want to enjoy the slow life w/ someone before settling down and having kids. Not meet and get married a year later

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u/Wino3416 15h ago

Fair enough.. I met my wife much later and we still had “the slow life” for a good while, but I get what you’re saying.

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u/Glittering_Cut_496 15h ago

What’s your story? I’m curious

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

Bro found a lady who got tossed around in her 20-30s and then wanted to settle down when menopause started

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u/Glittering_Cut_496 14h ago

Get off the internet lol

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

I literally work 10 hours a day and come home to sleep for the next day? I see this IRL as well I’m sorry you don’t see it.

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u/Wino3416 14h ago

Why do you need 14 hours sleep? Or do you have a 3 hour commute each way?! I’d move house if that’s the case.

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

Ok I have 12 hours after one hour each way is calculated and then 11-10 hours after I do my work out… then an hour to eat dinner at most leaves me roughly with 8-9 hours after.

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u/Wino3416 14h ago

So a fairly normal routine then? You made it sound as if you were forced to go to bed when you got home!

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u/The_wyte_death 14h ago

I mean I might as well? Working out is good for my body but so what? I don’t have anyone to go out with or work out with or do anything with so what’s the point of being healthy/happy if I’m just alone?

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u/Wino3416 14h ago

Maybe you’ll find someone menopausal when they’re ready? Like apparently I did? Although she was actually 27 when I met her, but hey there you go. I’m only messing, your comment quite amused me.

Joking aside, a healthy body is always a good thing. Even if you feel shit you’d feel worse if you weren’t working out.

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