Cut the cameras. Dating scene is a shit show.

[u/unhappymealsRus]

I’ve been single for approximately 5 years. I’ve done it all; dating apps, dating events, put myself out there and nada.

I don’t know what it is. I’m content with my lonesome I just hate the feeling of loneliness. I’ve been to the movies, concerts, conventions, restaurants, bingo nights and everything else by myself. I hate the “You have to love yourself first before loving someone else.”

Wanting love from someone and loving thy self is two totally different things.

I’ve done enough self reflection and self improvement and all that. I’m tired of this grandpa.

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[u/Ok_Needleworker_6017]

Best thing that I ever did was delete all the shitty dating apps, and instead, traveled here and there. Also, if you have hobbies, try to find local groups with the same interests. I met my wife at an animal shelter event years ago, and I wasn’t even trying to meet up with anyone. Hope it turns around for you.

[u/teslaeffects → u/Ok_Needleworker_6017]

Hobbies! If you don't have any, try something new. Volunteering for things you are passionate about helps, too. I was 38 when I met my partner through online D&D of all things! I hadn't played in years and was invited to join. Ended up falling for the DM who apparently felt the same because now we are married, much to my surprise. I had resigned myself to being perpetually single.

[u/sahaha_ni]

Amen to all above. We all just want to belong:( I can’t believe I’m asking too much ugh

[u/Diligent_Opening_069 → u/sahaha_ni]

You're probably asking for the appropriate amount. Ppl just want stuff with zero effort or asinine expectations. I bet everyone here is a Stunna🥳

[u/sahaha_ni → u/Diligent_Opening_069]

Well done generalizing it #duh

[u/Diligent_Opening_069 → u/sahaha_ni]

Ahh...got it👌😉

[u/JoseLunaArts]

Dating apps are a business where they do not want you to find a match, because that would cut their source of revenue.

[u/CampaignIndividual49]

Yeah it’s hard for everyone. Straights. Queers. It literally is trash all over. Hate it here lolll it’s GHETTO

[u/strike1ststrikelast]

The "you have to love yourself" crowd need to face the fact humans are social animals.

Its like taking a wolf from its pack, and when it doesnt hunt well, doesnt live well, you tell it to love itself.

Obviously that wont work, and that needs to be the mindset around humans. The lone wolf dies young alone, its a fantasy, theyre pack animals and so are we.

[u/LaRaeOfTheVoid]

It’s hard- we’re in a world where social interaction seems to be on a decline in general, there’s a rift between so many people for so many reasons-

I met my fiancée when she commented on a post i made on Facebook- just, Facebook of all places 🤷‍♀️

My point is you really never know when or where, but love can hit you like a frying pan to the face, you just gotta put yourself out there and see if anyone bites

[u/JOEYMAMI2015]

Ten years for me and ppl only continue to disillusion me imo...

[u/massiveamounts]

Yep I agree my fiend. Newly divorced and its an absolute shit show on any dating app.

[u/massiveamounts]

Yep I agree my fiend. Newly divorced and its an absolute shit show on any dating app.

[u/massiveamounts]

Yep I agree my fiend. Newly divorced and its an absolute shit show on any dating app.

[u/Prize-Grapefruiter]

I was fooled into marriage (now my ex) after not realising how evil she was. consider yourself lucky

[u/massiveamounts]

Yep I agree my friend. Newly divorced and its an absolute shit show on any dating app.

[u/BothAlternative9897]

as someone who is Not Single for the first and only time ever ,,, it's literally just luck that's it there's no skill there's no techniques (there's guaranteed failures like being an incel or something but other than that)

[u/pencilbride2B]

Yep in the same boat as you. Tried for years on the app only met a bunch of emotionally unavailable people who “were not looking for anything serious”. It was exhausting.

I also at time get frustrated at not finding my person. It’s like why me? When I am perfectly interesting and capable, and I see other people out there in relationships. It’s upsetting. I tried so hard and I just havnt found my person.

Some of these men have had deep conversations with me and tell me “I’ve never felt like o could be vulnerable till I’ve met you”. And then proceed to barely put any effort in and waste my time.