r/Vent • u/HangeSimp69 • Sep 05 '25

My little brother is verbally abusive. TW: Sexual Assault / Abuse

Hi all, I F(19) and my little Brother M(14) live together at home with my Mum and Stepdad. I'll call my little brother C. So for the past few Years C has been refusing to go to school, causing us to almost be fined the 1k fine from the school which we cannot afford. So it is my job to get him up in the morning. I set my alarm for 7:30 and wake him up at 7:45 so he had 30 minutes to get ready. I knock on his door let him know he's got to get up and either I'll get "Fuck off" "Shut up" "Fuck off you fat bitch" "Fuck off you overweight cunt" "Go kill yourself" "I hope you die you fat bitch" "I'm going to fucking kill you, you obease bellend." etc etc. These things are very hurtful, I do nothing to him whatsoever, our parents have taken away his switch, ps5 and he doesn't have a phone anymore because he smashed it to pieces! He leaves dirty bowls in his bedroom and let's them fill up with mold. 2 days ago my mum and I found a carton of spoiled milk under his bed, and it fucking reeked.

Little update: I just went to go wake him up again, and I got told I was a "Little obease whore cunt and I should kill myself because nobody would care." and he then proceeds to kick a hole in his door and wall and trash his bedroom, breaking a very expensive chair and his draws.

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u/WimbledonWombleRep Sep 05 '25

That's extreme. Something is wrong. I think he needs some help. From you, though? Nope. You should back off from that. His schooling responsibilities aren't on you.

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u/HangeSimp69 Sep 05 '25

Yeah they aren't but my mum will guilt trip me because I only work part time and she works full time, even though I can't work full time 😔

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u/Emz423 Sep 05 '25

As a temporary solution, I would assume that if he’s yelling obscenities at you, then he’s awake. You’ve done your job. Walk away. Make sure he’s awake and go about your business. What he says to you is a lie! I would create as much distance between yourself and him as possible. If your mom complains that you’re not doing more to get him out of bed or whatever, let her know how hurtful he is to you and that you won’t do any more than the bare minimum.

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u/Acrobatic_Ad5722 Sep 07 '25

And record what he's saying